Quotes About Support

To the degree that our caretakers attack or abandon us for showing vulnerability, to that degree do we later avoid the authentic self-expression that is fundamental to intimacy. The outer critic forms to remind us that everyone else is surely as dangerous as our original caretakers. Subliminal memories of being scorned for seeking our parents' support then short-circuit our inclinations to share our troubles and ask for help.

Feelings of abandonment commonly masquerade as the physiological sensations of hunger. Hunger pain soon after a big meal is rarely truly about food. Typically it is camouflaged emotional hunger and the longing for safe, nurturing connection. Food cannot satiate the hunger pain of abandonment. Only loving support can. Geneen Roth's book offers powerful self-help book on this subject.

Mutual commiseration also typically promotes a spontaneous opening into many levels of light-hearted and spontaneous connecting.

A child who grows up with no reliable human source of love, support and protection typically falls into a great deal of social unease. He "naturally" becomes reluctant to seek support from anyone, and he is forced to adopt self-sufficiency as a survival strategy.

14. Perseverating About Being Attacked. Unless there are clear signs of danger, I will thought-stop my projection of past bullies/critics onto others. The majority of my fellow human beings are peaceful people. I have legal authorities to aid in my protection if threatened by the few who aren't. I invoke thoughts and images of my friends' love and support.

The Drama of the Gifted Child. Sean's inborn gift coming into this life was his compassion and his sense that if he studied his mother enough and figured out what she needed, he could provide for her needs.

More and more research suggests that our ability to metabolize painful emotional states is enhanced by communicating with a safe enough other person.

When an emotional experience has shifted, we best support ourselves by accepting its loss as shamelessly as possible and by making a commitment to love and accept ourselves no matter what we feel – no matter what storms come with our emotional weather.

Traumatic emotional neglect occurs when a child does not have a single caretaker to whom she can turn in times of need or danger.

The majority of my fellow human beings are peaceful people. I have legal authorities to aid in my protection if threatened by the few who aren't. I invoke thoughts and images of my friends' love and support.

crippling state of self-attack, which eventually becomes the equivalent of full-fledged self-abandonment. The ability to support himself or take his own side in any way is decimated.

aprendemos que los flashbacks pueden causar que olvidemos que nuestros aliados probados todavía son de hecho fiables.

We live in an emotionally impoverished culture, and those who stick with a long term recovery process

Perfectionism. My perfectionism arose as an attempt to gain safety and support in my dangerous family. Perfection is a self-persecutory myth. I do not have to be perfect to be safe or loved in the present. I am letting go of relationships that require perfection. I have a right to make mistakes. Mistakes

Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.

Trauma can be prevented more easily than it can be healed.

The foundational truth imparted by the authors is that the adult's first task is to attend to his or her own emotional state, since it's only in the adult's calm, competent, and reassuring presence that children find the space to resolve their tensions.

Children should never be forced to do more than they are willing and able to do.

Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence. Not only can trauma be healed, but with appropriate guidance and support, it can be transformative.

Without words, young children sometimes show parents the parts of their experience that have overwhelmed them.

help from a parent to move the play from repetition to resolution can relieve her distress.

help to create an environment of relative safety, an atmosphere that conveys refuge, hope and possibility.

Children are comforted and empowered by knowing that it won't hurt forever and that you will stay with them until they begin to feel more like themselves again.

Sometimes their "brave face" is an attempt to reduce the anxiety of a bewildered parent.