Quotes About Children

Unfortunately, many children of alcoholics have not been given a secure base from which to venture into the adult world. The focus on addiction in their families, rather than on the developing needs of children, often causes children of alcoholics to feel shameful and anxious rather than confident and secure. These children learn to adapt to life rather than learning how to live their lives. Without

Yes, children need to learn patience, but parents need to be patient long enough to let them learn.

Offer Acceptable Choices Having choices gives children a sense of power: they have the power to choose one possibility or another.

As crianças são estancadas na frente dos seus aparelhos digitais e televisões enquanto os pais fazem o jantar, as tarefas domésticas ou trabalham em casa. As crianças podem aprender a música de um personagem de desenho ou reconhecer letras e números, mas, ao contrário do que muitos pais acreditam, elas não aprendem linguagem assistindo TV.

what children really need to grow and develop is unhurried time with caring adults

Los niños se comportan bien cuando se sienten bien. ¿De dónde sacamos la ridícula idea de que para que los niños se porten bien, primero los papás deben hacerles sentir vergüenza, humillación e incluso sufrimiento? Los niños se sienten más motivados a cooperar, a aprender nuevas habilidades y a ofrecer afecto cuando se sienten alentados, conectados y amados.

when you ask children why homework is important, they will tell you ("so I can learn," "so I will get a better grade"). They can then decide how much time they need and when is the best time for them. (Parents usually want their children to do their homework as soon as they get home from school. Children would usually like some downtime first. When children get some choice, they feel empowered.)

There is simply no substitute for time and attention, and children who have the opportunity to bond well with parents find it easier to get along with others and to be comfortable in their world as they grow up.

El humor es una de las mejores y más disfrutables herramientas de crianza.

Positive Discipline is built on teaching, understanding, encouraging, and communicating—not on punishing. Punishment is intended to make children "pay" for what they have done. Discipline is designed to help children learn from what they have done.

Discipline with young children is mostly about deciding what you will do (and kindly and firmly following through) than with what you expect your child to do.

Punishment may seem to "work" in the short term. But over time, it creates rebellion, resistance, and children who don't believe in their own worth and capability

children are shaped by both the raw material they inherit and the forces around them, they also bring to the world something unique to them: their own spirit and identity.

Mutual respect. Parents model firmness by respecting themselves and the needs of the situation, and kindness by respecting the needs and humanity of the child.

Understanding the belief behind behavior. All human behavior happens for a reason, and children start creating the beliefs that form their personality from the day they are born. You will be far more effective at changing your child's behavior when you understand the beliefs behind it.

Effective communication. Parents and children (even little ones) can learn to listen well and use respectful words to ask for what they need.

Children do better when they feel better. Where did we get the crazy idea that in order to "make" children behave, we should make them feel shame, humiliation, or even pain? Children are more motivated to cooperate, learn new skills, and offer affection and respect when they feel encouraged, connected, and loved.

There is a difference between wants and needs, and your little one's needs are simpler than you might think. All genuine needs should be met. When you give in to all wants, however, you can create problems for your child and for yourself.

children learn from all of their senses, and having the opportunity to get messy is a valuable part of play—and learning. (You can always clean up together afterward

wonder if you can brush your teeth and get into your pajamas before Dad does.

When children are young, they love to imitate parents, grandparents, and other caregivers. Your toddler will want to push the vacuum cleaner, squirt the bottle of bathroom cleaner, and cook breakfast (with lots of supervision). As your little one grows more capable, you can use these everyday moments of life together to teach her how to become a competent, confident person

the primary social goal of children (and adults) was to belong and feel significant within their family or social group. Although they are not always conscious of this goal, children constantly adjust their behavior to achieve a sense of belonging (connection) and significance (responsibility and capability).

I think my children know that Mother's priority is to be with them first. But I don't think it has to be an either/or situation. Work is very important to me, and it wouldn't be in the best interest of my children for me to stay home seven days a week.

I came back to work when my children were two months old. At that early age, they seem to have little awareness of anybody but their Raggedy Ann dolls, so it wasn't a matter of them missing me. I was missing them.