Quotes About Children

Children become resilient as a result of the patterns of stress and of nurturing that they experience early on in life

Children, just like us adults, react badly to the unknown, to the strange and unfamiliar, especially when they themselves are trying to adjust to a new situation like the start of a school year.

This is one of the central problems in our society; we have too many parents caring for children with inadequate supports.

Brain development is use-dependent: you use it or you lose it. If we don't give children time to learn how to be with others, to connect, to deal with conflict, and to negotiate complex social hierarchies, those areas of their brains will be underdeveloped.

While this doesn't mean that smart children need less affection, it does suggest that if they are deprived, brighter kids may be better equipped to cope.

It is not unusual for children to be deceptive or withholding or to purposefully lie in order to avoid things they don't want to share, especially when they have been instructed to do so by their families. However, it is far more difficult for them to hide their true thoughts and feelings in their artwork.

What we call "cuteness" is actually an evolutionary adaptation that helps ensure that parents will care for their children, that babies will get their needs met, and that parents will take on this seemingly thankless task with pleasure.

Dissociation as a coping mechanism will happen more commonly when the individual feels that a threatening situation is inescapable. If you're a child and your family has a lot of conflict, you don't have many options. You can't say, "Hey, I'm moving out." Very young children can't fight or flee. They have to stay.

Yes. We all want to be part of a group, yet so many children are marginalized, excluded, or bullied. This can be devastating. Being left out can have a deep and enduring impact.

But if the adults who live with, teach, and treat these children are not regulated, they will not be able to be fully present in a compassionate, regulated way.

Los niños reconstruyen los acontecimientos mediante juegos, dibujos y en sus interacciones diarias.

many people in our society, including children and youth, are touch-starved. Healthy touch is not well understood. We actually have schools where tiny toddlers whose impulse is to run up and hug a classmate or teacher are told not to touch; in return, the teachers and other caregivers are not allowed to touch the children. But it's simply unhealthy for a three-or four-year-old child to go eight hours without touching or hugging or playfully wrestling with another person.

el castigo, la privación y la fuerza únicamente consiguen volver a traumatizar a estos niños y exacerbar sus problemas.

In many ways, the result of our society's poverty of relationships is a form of social and emotional starvation. Our children are starving.

I think about children who are molested when they are so young that they don't have the language to process what has happened. The experience locks into the brain in a way it wouldn't if the child could express with words what happened.

los niños pequeños son muy susceptibles a la espiral de consecuencias de las elecciones que nosotros —y después ellos— hacemos, tanto para bien como para mal.

We have to think about ways to raise our children with more opportunities to be exposed to the magnificence of human diversity earlier in their lives. And we have to change the inherently biased elements of so many of our systems.

If a child has RAD, the lack of connection and attachment goes both ways. There is a reciprocal neurobiology to human relationships—our "mirror neurons" create this. As a result, these children are difficult to work with because their lack of interest in other people and their inability to empathize makes them hard to like. Interacting with them feels empty, not engaging. Stephanie shouldn't

If the challenge is going to build resilience, it has to be moderate—just right. Finding the "just right" is a major issue with children who have had trauma. Remember, they frequently live in a persistent state of fear. And fear shuts down parts of the cortex—the thinking part of the brain. In a classroom, what may seem to be a moderate, developmentally appropriate challenge for many children may be an overwhelming demand on a child with a sensitized stress response

The value of early intervention programs, even those that have only brief "doses" of positive interaction, can't be underestimated.

Resilient children are made, not born. The developing brain is most malleable and most sensitive to experience—both good and bad—early in life.

In order to appreciate how children heal we need to understand how they learn to love, how they cope with challenge, how stress affects them. And by recognizing the destructive impact that violence and threat can have on the capacity to love and work, we can come to better understand ourselves and to nurture the people in our lives, especially the children.

a child with traumatic experiences will often have difficulty learning—and also be overreactive to the feedback and criticisms that come with struggling in school. This can lead to behavior problems. The behaviors are often misunderstood. So many of the things that people and systems do with good intentions actually cause additional pain for the families and children they're supposed to be serving.

The sense of self informs every relationship or decision we make as we move through life. And when children don't feel respected by the decisions of their parents, their beliefs about how they are valued are crushed.