Quotes About Openness

I was raised not to be afraid to show emotion or imagination.

Because when we set out to try to change someone, we are more likely to argue with and attack their story and less likely to listen. This approach increases the likelihood that they will feel defensive rather than open to learning something new. They are more likely to change if they think we understand them and if they feel heard and respected. They are more likely to change if they feel free not to.

Step 5: Problem-Solving • Invent options that meet each side's most important concerns and interests. • Look to standards for what should happen. Keep in mind the standard of mutual caretaking; relationships that always go one way rarely last. • Talk about how to keep communication open as you go forward.

As we argue vociferously for our view, we often fail to question one crucial assumption upon which our whole stance in the conversation is built: I am right, you are wrong. This simple assumption causes endless grief.

It's Always the Right Time to Listen

Say What You Mean: Don't Make Them Guess

Say what's in it for the boss. Explain how having a conversation is in your boss's interest: "I want to make this initiative a great success. To do that I need a little more help in making sure I understand the logic well enough to execute effectively." Of course for this approach to work, you have to be open to learning.

Stop Arguing About Who's Right: Explore Each Other's Stories

A common tendency is to ask for agreement, perhaps because it's reassuring: "Does that make sense?" "Wouldn't you agree?" But asking the other person how they see it differently is more helpful. If you ask for agreement, people may be reluctant to share their doubts and reservations. They aren't sure whether you really want to hear them.

You'll miss the best things if you keep your eyes shut.

May my heart always be open to little birds who are the secrets of living.

IS IT SO TERRIBLE NOT TO KEEP THE MATTER IN MY HEART, TO GET THE MATTER OUT OF MY HEART, TO EMPTY MY HEART OF THIS MATTER? WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH MY HEART?

When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.

Become at ease with the state of "not knowing.

If there isn't an emanation of love and joy, complete presence and openness toward all beings, then it is not enlightenment.

Don't seek the truth. Just cease to cherish opinions.

Become at ease with the state of "not knowing." This takes you beyond mind because the mind is always trying to conclude and interpret. It is afraid of not knowing. So, when you can be at ease with not knowing, you have already gone beyond the mind. A deeper knowing that is non-conceptual then arises out of that state.

Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing.

Su tarea no es buscar amor sino encontrar una puerta a través de la cual el amor pueda entrar" .

Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you.

Say "yes" to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.

When you are full of problems, there is no room for anything new to enter, no room for a solution.

If the shutters are closed, the sunlight cannot come in.

In order to attract success, you need to welcome it wherever you see it.