Quotes About Patterns

The goal of my work is to make visible the inevitable racist assumptions held, and patterns displayed, by white people conditioned from living in a white supremacist culture.

Loving the self, to me, begins with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

realized that I had the power to change my life if I was willing to change my thinking and release the patterns that kept me living in the past.

Take a little time to listen to the words you say. If you hear yourself saying something three times, write it down. It has become a pattern for you. At the end of a week, look at the list you've made and you'll see how your words fit your experiences.

It's the negative thought patterns that produce uncomfortable, unrewarding experiences with which we're concerned. It's our desire to change our dis-ease in life into perfect health.

Our consistent thinking patterns create our experiences. Therefore, by changing our thinking patterns, we can change our experiences. What a joy it was when I first discovered the words metaphysical causations. This describes the power in the words and thoughts that create experiences. This new awareness brought me an understanding of the connection between thoughts and the different parts of the body and physical problems.

1. We are each responsible for our experiences. 2. Every thought we think is creating our future. 3. Everyone is dealing with the damaging patterns of resentment, criticism, guilt, and self-hatred. 4. These are only thoughts, and thoughts can be changed. 5. We need to release the past and forgive everyone. 6. Self-approval and self-acceptance in the "now" are the keys to positive change. 7. The point of power is always in the present moment.

Chronic patterns of self-hate, guilt, and self-criticism raise the body's stress levels and weaken the immune system.

Whatever the problem is, it comes from a thought pattern, and thought patterns can be changed!

We create every so-called illness in our body. Resentment, criticism, and guilt are the most damaging patterns.

When I say "needing the problem," I mean that according to our particular set of thought patterns, we "need" to have certain outer effects or experiences. Every outer effect is the natural expression of an inner thought pattern. To battle only the outer effect or symptom is wasted energy and often increases the problem.

If you find yourself saying, "Everyone always does such and such to me, criticizes me, is never there for me, uses me like a doormat, abuses me," then this is YOUR PATTERN. There is some thought in you that attracts people who exhibit this behavior. When you no longer think that way, they will go elsewhere and do that to somebody else. You will no longer attract them.

if you listen with compassion, you will learn where their fears and rigid patterns come from.

emotions were far from linear. They were circles and waves and dots and triangles. But they were rarely a straight line." Chapter 13 · Page 114 · Location 2031

Of course, that's not really accurate," Dr. DeSantos says. "The future is going to come, in some form, whether we like it or not. What we really mean is that we can't plan for the future. And when we can't plan—when we can't find those patterns that make sense—we lose the skeleton of life. And no one can remain upright without that.

Commandment 6: Always try to watch people for multiple tells—behaviors that occur in clusters or in succession.

A relationship does not start the day two people meet; it starts in the childhood of each partner. For it is long before they meet that the template of their relationship is established.

SHAME-BASED MARRIAGE AND PARENTAL MODELS It is obvious that a major source of toxic shame is the family system and its multigenerational patterns of unresolved secrets. More specifically, these families are created by the shame-based people who find and marry each other. Each expects the other to parent the child within him or her. Each is incomplete and insatiable. The insatiability is rooted in each person's unmet childhood needs.

When a person represses over the course of a number of years, intelligence is greatly contaminated and diminished. The frozen patterns become chronic patterns. It is as if the "on" button is stuck and plays all the time. Figure 4.6 shows how little intelligence is left uncontaminated.

Every girl has that one boy she keeps going back to and no one knows why, not even her.

Curious things, habits. People themselves never knew they had them. [Witness for the Prosecution, also published in The Hound of Death and Other Stories.]

The architecture of change involves the design and construction of new patterns, or the reconceptualization of old ones, to make new, and hopefully more productive, actions possible.

The best designers will use many design patterns that dovetail and intertwine to produce a greater whole.

If what the heart approves conforms to proper patterns, then even if one's desires are many, what harm would they be to good order?