Quotes About Behavior

If you can control your behavior when everything around you is out of control, you can model for your children a valuable lesson in patience and understanding...and snatch an opportunity to shape character.

You can tell a lot about someone's character from the way they treat waiters or shop assistants or bus drivers when they think no one is watching.

But does that mean that war and violence are inevitable? I would argue not because we have also evolved this amazingly sophisticated intellect, and we are capable of controlling our innate behavior a lot of the time.

When I began in 1960, individuality wasn't an accepted thing to look for it was about species-specific behaviour. But animal behaviour is not hard science. There's room for intuition.

War had always seemed to me to be a purely human behavior. Accounts of warlike behavior date back to the very first written records of human history it seemed to be an almost universal characteristic of human groups.

It is these undeniable qualities of human love and compassion and self-sacrifice that give me hope for the future. We are, indeed, often cruel and evil. Nobody can deny this. We gang up on each one another, we torture each other, with words as well as deeds, we fight, we kill. But we are also capable of the most noble, generous, and heroic behavior.

You don't have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once, if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future.

you don't have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once, if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future.

I'm not sure that insecurity is a good enough excuse for that sort of behavior. We're all insecure, and I really think he's old enough to have discovered the reasons behind his insecurity, and do something about them." ...Lucy

After a day of watching the two-legs interact from within their midst, she was certain that they could talk as well as any wolf. Unlike wolves, however, they mostly used their mouths, a thing she found limiting. How could you tell someone to keep away from your food when your own mouth was full?

As educational psychologist Jane M. Healy puts it, "Brains shape behavior, and behavior shapes brains.

Los niños se comportan bien cuando se sienten bien. ¿De dónde sacamos la ridícula idea de que para que los niños se porten bien, primero los papás deben hacerles sentir vergüenza, humillación e incluso sufrimiento? Los niños se sienten más motivados a cooperar, a aprender nuevas habilidades y a ofrecer afecto cuando se sienten alentados, conectados y amados.

There is a popular cartoon that shows a mother talking to her child. "Honey," she says, "when you're older, I want you to be confident, assertive, and independent. But right now I want you to be compliant, quiet, and obedient." Most parents know the feeling: The very same qualities that we want for our children as adults can make life challenging when they're young.

Positive Discipline is built on teaching, understanding, encouraging, and communicating—not on punishing. Punishment is intended to make children "pay" for what they have done. Discipline is designed to help children learn from what they have done.

Discipline with young children is mostly about deciding what you will do (and kindly and firmly following through) than with what you expect your child to do.

Often adults fail to realize that they simply can't reason with a toddler and thus they spend more time talking than acting. No matter how well you use them, words are often little more than sounds to young children. Actions, like removing a child from a forbidden temptation by picking him up and carrying him to another location, provide an unmistakable message.

Punishment may seem to "work" in the short term. But over time, it creates rebellion, resistance, and children who don't believe in their own worth and capability

He's not deliberately trying to drive you insane; he's either exploring at his age-appropriate level or learning about consistency and making sure adults mean what they say (an important part of trust).

Understanding the belief behind behavior. All human behavior happens for a reason, and children start creating the beliefs that form their personality from the day they are born. You will be far more effective at changing your child's behavior when you understand the beliefs behind it.

Understanding child development and age-appropriateness. This is necessary so that parents don't expect behavior of children that is beyond their ability and comprehension.

Children do better when they feel better. Where did we get the crazy idea that in order to "make" children behave, we should make them feel shame, humiliation, or even pain? Children are more motivated to cooperate, learn new skills, and offer affection and respect when they feel encouraged, connected, and loved.

True discipline guides, teaches, and invites healthy behavior. As you may have discovered, you can never really control anyone's behavior but your own, and attempts to control your child usually create more problems and power struggles.

Children learn respect by seeing what it looks like in action.

wonder, "Would they rather have weak-willed children?"): children who won't obey, won't listen, or have temper tantrums. Some of this behavior is typical of a young child's development, as children explore and experiment to discover who they are and what they can do.