Quotes About Behavior

The best dog training was based on the reward system. You did not punish a dog for doing wrong, you rewarded the dog for doing right.

The most debilitating characteristic of even the most well-behaved psychopath is the inability to form a workable team.

Most therapy programs do little more than provide psychopaths with new excuses and rationalizations for their behavior and new insights into human vulnerability. They may learn new and better ways of manipulating other people, but they make little effort to change their own views and attitudes or to understand that other people have needs, feelings, and rights. In particular, attempts to teach psychopaths how to "really feel" remorse or empathy are doomed to failure.

Psychopaths are notorious for not answering the question posed them or for answering in a way that seems unresponsive to the question.

psychopaths are rational and aware of what they are doing and why. Their behavior is the result of choice, freely exercised.

But isn't the behavior of psychopaths maladaprive? The answer is that it may be maladaprive for society but it is adaptive for the individuals themselves.

What makes psychopaths different from all others is the remarkable ease with which they lie, the pervasiveness of their deception, and the callousness with which they carry it out.

Guilt?" he remarked in prison. "It's this mechanism we use to control people. It's an illusion. It's a kind of social control mechanism—and it's very unhealthy. It does terrible things to our bodies. And there are much better ways to control our behavior than that rather extraordinary use of guilt.

Evidence is emerging to show that victims of early sexual, physical, or emotional abuse frequently become perpetrators of the same as adults.

Most therapy programs do little more than provide psychopaths with new excuses and rationalizations for their behavior and new insights into human vulnerability. They may learn new and better ways of manipulating other people.

A simple analogy here will help. The psychopath is like a color-blind person who sees the world in shades of gray but who has learned how to function in a colored world.

the "sum of virtue," Hobbes writes, "is to be sociable with them that will be sociable, and formidable to them that will not."1

Consequently, children who experience toxic stress have trouble concentrating, controlling impulsive behavior, and following directions.

What changes behavior? What is the government's role in bringing hope to its citizens? How do we break the cycle of despair?

Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.

Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.

LAW 9 WIN THROUGH YOUR ACTIONS, NEVER THROUGH ARGUMENT JUDGMENT Any momentary triumph you think you have gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.

The problem is that we humans are deep conformists.

person who cannot control his words shows that he cannot control himself

The vast majority of people conform to whatever is normal for the time.

we tend to think of our behavior as largely conscious and willed. To imagine that we are not always in control of what we do is a frightening thought, but in fact it is the reality.

Acted like a king to be treated like one.

take special note of how people respond to stressful situations—often the mask they wear in public falls off in the heat of the moment.

To this day, we humans remain highly susceptible to the moods and emotions of those around us, compelling all kinds of behavior on our part—unconsciously imitating others, wanting what they have, getting swept up in viral feelings of anger or outrage. We