Quotes About Behavior

We've been wicked for such a very long time, you know. It does get tiresome after a while.

Never ever, ever make excuses for a scoundrel.

Today he hasn't been half as irritating, which I find rather irritating.

It's alarming, really, how quickly nice people become ravenous, bloodthirsty.

And while we are living, we receive no punishment but what we put on each other or that we make for ourselves

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

I reacted to other people's feelings, behaviors, problems, and thoughts. I reacted to what they might by feeling, thinking, or doing. I reacted to my own feelings, my own thoughts, my own problems. My strong point seemed to be reacting to crises—I thought almost everything was a crisis. I overreacted.

Recovery is not only fun, it is simple. It is not always easy, but it is simple. It is based on a premise many of us have forgotten or never learned: Each person is responsible for him- or herself. It involves learning one new behavior that we will devote ourselves to: taking care of ourselves.

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

Codependency is about normal behaviors taken too far. It's about crossing lines.

an emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual's prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules—rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems."2

Of all the judgments that we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves, for that judgment touches the very center of our existence. … No significant aspect of our thinking, motivation, feelings, or behavior is unaffected by our self-evaluation….

We don't have to feel guilty whenever we experience anger. We don't have to feel guilty. Breathe deeply. We can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for our behaviors.

Our feelings don't need to control us. Just because we're angry, we don't have to scream and hit. Just because we're sad or depressed, we don't have to lie in bed all day. Just because we're scared, doesn't mean we don't apply for that job. I

Feelings are emotional energy; they are not personality traits.

described codependency as "a set of maladaptive, compulsive behaviors learned by family members to survive in a family experiencing great emotional pain and stress … Behaviors … passed on from generation to generation whether alcoholism is present or not.

When a codependent discontinued his or her relationship with a troubled person, the codependent frequently sought another troubled person and repeated the codependent behaviors with that new person. These behaviors, or coping mechanisms, seemed to prevail throughout the codependent's life—if that person didn't change these behaviors.

When people with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don't love you—they are saying they don't love themselves. — CODEPENDENT NO MORE

We don't have to analyze or justify our feelings. We need to feel them, and try not to let them control our behavior.

Codependents make great employees. They don't complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful. Maria

We don't have to take other people's behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.

Sometimes people behave in certain ways to provoke us to react in certain ways. If we stop reacting in these certain ways, we take all the fun out of it for them.

When a codependent discontinued their relationship with a troubled person, the codependent frequently sought another troubled person and repeated the codependent behaviors with that new person. These behaviors, or coping mechanisms, seemed to prevail throughout the codependent's life—if they didn't change these behaviors.

Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act.