Quotes About Behavior

That's the kind of person she was, a cat-kicker.

I tend to place kids in a class with dogs, preferring the quiet, the smart, and the well trained.

A man is what he himself does, what he thinks, what he learns, his own skills.

She devised a very simple experiment to look at the four behaviors that Bowlby and she believed were basic to attachment: that we monitor and maintain emotional and physical closeness with our beloved; that we reach out for this person when we are unsure, upset, or feeling down; that we miss this person when we are apart; and that we count on this person to be there for us when we go out into the world and explore.

The kids who can calm themselves usually have warmer, more responsive mothers, while the moms of the angry kids are unpredictable in their behavior, and the moms of the detached kids are colder and dismissive.

Once we get caught in a negative pattern, we expect it, watch for it, and react even faster when we think we see it coming.

Emotion is actually nature's exquisitely efficient information-processing and signaling system, designed to rapidly reorganize behavior in the interests of survival.

Depressed people do things they wouldn't ordinarily do.

You don't have to feel love for her. Only try to act with love

rudeness is a misdemeanor in Charleston.

I didn't know whether this Mr. Smyth was behaving like white people, or if it just showed something vile about all people.

You don't have to feel love for her. Only try to act with love.

His style of criticism—indirect, using the third person—was not unfamiliar to me. I had interviewed many defectors in the past, and it was surprising how many of them readily bashed the people around them, often behind their backs. I wondered if their behavior stemmed from the lifelong indoctrination of weekly critiques, from the constant spying on their fellow citizens.

Stir opponents up, making them respond to you; then you can observe their forms of behavior, and whether they are orderly or confused.

All my life I've been well behaved, she said. It's about time I got to push people around and not apologize.

But while it's tempting to project onto dolphins all the superpowers we wish we had ourselves, I knew (on an intellectual level, anyway), that these were creatures who have it in them to be cranky and withdrawn and have their own version of a bad day.

At lunch he invariably downed a bottle of champagne, or brandy if he was in a different mood, and by afternoon he was almost invariably drunk.

In 1820, the average amount an individual drank in one day was more than three times the average today.119

It is behavior, not words, that has the greatest impact on a child. When a mother tells her daughter not to allow a man to control her or abuse her and then models the opposite in her own relationship with her husband, the girl will respond only to the behavioral message, not the verbal one.

If their children misbehave, they'll take away privileges, but they won't assault their dignity or value.

The more compliant she is, the more her feelings and needs are ignored, the angrier the girl becomes, and then the more compliant she becomes in order to deal with the anger. This cycle is the track that every mistreated child runs.

Unfortunately, there is no magic key. The misogynist's outbursts as well as his tenderness generally have little to do with how his partner is behaving. He is driven by his own inner demons. Therefore, there is no way to guarantee his good moods or eliminate his angry ones.

The physical and emotional distress that result from incurring the misogynist's displeasure can be so painful that women will do virtually anything to avoid it, including tolerate their partner's irrational behavior.

Remember, accepting blame is a survival tool for abused children. They keep the myth of the good family alive by believing that they - not their parents - are bad. This belief lies at the core of virtually all self-defeating behavior patterns in adults who were abused as children.