Quotes About Behavior

Unexpressed emotion will be expressed somewhere, somehow, inside or out, most cruelly as unconscious aggression delivered with a smile or a poisonous cup of tea

Society thinks of violent acts as manifestations of evil or immorality. We're told we have ultimate control over our own behavior, that each and every one of us has the free will to choose not to hurt another human being. But it's not just morality that guides us. Biology does as well. Our frontal lobs helps us integrate thoughts and actions. They help us weight the consequences of those actions. Without such control, we'd give in to every wild impulse.

Why do we always treat kids like the enemy?" "Because they so often behave like an alien species?

ADD has turned into a catchall for all childhood misbehavior. When a student's failing in class, or he gets into mischief

If indeed these various attacks in different States are linked, then we're dealing with a set of highly complex ritual behaviors," said Dr. Lawrence Zucker.

Giving up wrong deeds, exercise right action. Giving up wrong speech, exercise right speech. Giving up wrong thoughts, think good thoughts.

As the pot slowly fills up with water, drop by drop, so does the fool, little by little, become evil.

Our message is first and foremost a nonverbal one; our message is our own action.

Just as rust produced by iron corrodes iron, so is the violator of moral law destroyed by his own wrong action.

mindset drives and shapes all that we do—how we engage with others and how we behave in every moment and situation.

the simple idea that behaviors drive results.

while behaviors drive results, behaviors themselves are informed and shaped by one's mindset.

So while it's true that behavior drives results, it's also true that mindset drives behavior. Consequently, any solution to human problems that ignores this reality ignores too much of what's true to produce reliable results.

As the mindset changes, so does the behavior, without having to prescribe the change. And where certain behaviors still need to be stipulated, the suggestions won't be systematically resisted. For these reasons, mindset change facilitates sustainable behavior change.

Most approaches to leadership share two common problems. As we've discussed in this chapter, they fail to account adequately for mindset and therefore put too much faith in our ability to change behavior without addressing mindset. In addition, however, a problem that originated in Western thought some four hundred years ago has led to mindset and leadership approaches that are built on a mistake.

So while it's true that behavior drives results, it's also true that mindset drives behavior.

We are all surrounded by other autonomous people who don't always behave as we'd like.

A related reason why people resist making the most important move is that they think an outward mindset will make them soft when hard behavior is required. But this is a misunderstanding. As we've said, an outward mindset doesn't make people soft; it just makes them open, curious, and aware. Similarly, an inward mindset doesn't make people hard. In fact, people whose mindsets are inward often engage in behaviors that are softer than would actually be helpful.

a despicable human being." Judge

There is modesty, and there is propriety. The former is a natural instinct, given to us when Adam and Eve left the garden and realized their nakedness. The latter is merely a social construct. Although as human beings we wish to consort with our fellows, and therefore yield to their judgments in matters of dress and behavior, surely we may break the rules of propriety when they interfere with the important matters of our lives, so long as modesty is not thereby wounded.

When every benefit received is a right, there is no place for good manners, let alone for gratitude.

Political correctness is the means by which we try to control others; decency is the means by which we try to control ourselves.

A crude culture makes a coarse people, and private refinement cannot long survive public excess. There is a Gresham's law of culture as well as of money: the bad drives out the good, unless the good is defended.

Men are still led by instinct before they are regulated by knowledge