Quotes About Behavior

As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.

regulating potential of patterned, repetitive activity like dancing or massage.

the brain is malleable all through life...we can intentionally change if we know what needs to be addressed. The key is to recognize the patterns.

Dr. Perry: It has the same effect. And other children will discover that pulling out their hair or their eyebrows gives a little bit of an opiate burst.

There are parts of our brain that are very, very sensitive to nonverbal relational cues. And in our society, this is an underappreciated aspect of the way human beings work.

A child exposed to unpredictable or extreme stress will become what we call dysregulated.

Why is it that people who are victims of trauma are so often drawn to abusive relationships? Dr. Perry: Let me broaden the question, because it is so important in understanding not just abuse but all behavior. The key point is that all of us tend to gravitate to the familiar, even when the familiar is unhealthy or destructive. We are drawn to what we were raised with.

When children understand why someone behaves oddly, they give him or her more slack, generally.

often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.

Over the years, I've found that seemingly senseless behavior makes sense once you look at what is behind it. And since the brain is the part of us that allows us to think, feel, and act, whenever I'm trying

to understand someone, I wonder about that person's brain. Why did they do that? What would make them act that way? Something happened that influenced how their brain works.

we tend to see children who are whiny and demanding and aggressive as "spoiled" and "indulged," rather than recognizing that these qualities usually arise from unmet needs and unexplored potential, not from having too much or feeling too good.

This is essential to understand if you're a teacher, because while the regulated child can learn, the dysregulated child will not.

Your own experiences and the echoes of your ancestors' experiences influence the way you think, feel, and behave. They are major determinants of your health. And being aware of this can help us remember that everything we do right now is going to echo into the future. Our actions matter; we are impacting the next generations. So are we being as mindful as we could?

It's important to clarify that most people who are abused don't go on to abuse others in the same way. On the other hand, it is becoming clear that it's the very rare person who has been abused who doesn't have some form of adaptation that impacts how they deal with people. It doesn't have to be a "pathology," but it can influence the ways in which you form and maintain relationships.

The science of epigenetics has also made it clear that there are two mechanisms by which organisms pass on hereditary information. Those two mechanisms provide a way for scientists to study both the contribution of nature (genes) and the contribution of nurture (epigenetic mechanisms) in human behavior. If you only focus on the blueprints, as scientists have been doing for decades, the influence of the environment is impossible to fathom. (Dennis 2003; Chakravarti and Little 2003)

Signal transduction science recognizes that the fate and behavior of an organism is directly linked to its perception of the environment.

a cell is a "programmable chip" whose behavior and genetic activity are primarily controlled by environmental signals, not genes.

You cannot be "guilty" of bad parental behavior if you had no awareness or understanding of the implications of that behavior on your child's development.

epigenetics, a booming field of biology that is unraveling the mysteries of how the environment influences the behavior of cells without changing the genetic code.

El mayor obstáculo para conseguir el éxito en aquello que soñamos son las limitaciones programadas en el subconsciente. Estas limitaciones no sólo influyen en nuestro comportamiento, sino que también pueden jugar un papel fundamental en nuestra salud y nuestra fisiología. Como hemos visto antes, la mente juega un papel muy importante en el control de los sistemas biológicos que nos mantienen con vida.

The essential element of successful strategy is that it derives its success from the differences between competitors with a consequent difference in their behavior. Ordinarily, this means that any corporate policy and plan which is typical of the industry is doomed to mediocrity. Where this is not so, it should be possible to demonstrate that all other competitors are at a distinct disadvantage.

Free" is a special price, and there has been all sorts of psychological research showing that people don't act rationally around it. We overestimate the value of free. We consume more of something than we should when it's free. We pressure others to consume it. Free warps our normal sense of cost vs. benefit, and people end up trading their personal data for less than its worth.

It's not just politicians to blame for this. The media are culpable, too. By fixating on rare and spectacular events, they condition us to behave as if terrorism were much more common than it is and to fear it far out of proportion to its actual incidence. And we are also at fault, if we buy the propaganda the media are selling.