Quotes About Behavior

It's clearly a crisis of two things: of consciousness and conditioning. We have the technological power, the engineering skills to save our planet, to cure disease, to feed the hungry, to end war; But we lack the intellectual vision, the ability to change our minds. We must decondition ourselves from 10,000 years of bad behavior. And, it's not easy.

Whenever a young person encounters trauma, they react to it and they also repeat it. Modeling has elements of identifying with the aggressor. In modeling, you don't resist the dysfunctional mores of your family—you reenact them. You see yourself as you were seen; you internalize bad behavior as normal.

Most of us try to get more of what we want from our partners by complaining when they don't get it right. That's got to be about the worst behavioral modification program I've ever heard of.

This set point reaction, this relational modus operandi, is your relational stance, the thing you will do over and over again when you are stressed.

But most of us do not reenact the experience of the trauma itself. Instead, we act out the coping strategy that we evolved to deal with it.

One of the telltale characteristics of the you and me Adaptive Child is that it is automatic, a knee-jerk response.

changing one's own behavior is a much more promising strategy than insisting on change from the other.

you may seek out a partner who psychologically resembles your mother and found that you have walked right back into a difficult relationship. Perhapse you chose to be close to someone who turns out to be as volatile as your mother and who inflicts discomfort all too familiar to you. Or perhaps gradually, over time, your partner or close friend becomes like your mother; that may be because you unconsciously behave in ways that encourage others to treat you as your mother did.

I was doing it again, and I do NOT ogle strangers.

Cell phones are the latest invention in rudeness.

I must have been a really tough kid to corral. I got disciplined quite frequently. I guess that would be the best way to say it. The rod, I wore out the rod. You know, Spare the rod and spoil the child? Well, I wore out the rod.

Being brought up in a culture is a matter of learning appropriate forms of feeling as much as particular ways of thinking.

Profanity is the common crutch of the conversational cripple. —DAVID KEUCK

Wizard's Fifth Rule: Mind what people do, not only what they say, for deeds will betray a lie.

We may pretend that we're basically moral people who make mistakes, but the whole of history proves otherwise.

Do you think it's possible for an entire nation to be insane?

The laws have been slowly changing. Right now, statistics show that more than 30 percent of kids send sexual texts to each other. That

Seems to me there are a million examples of how nice or how cruel people act every moment of every day.

Nature soaks every evil with either fear or shame.

You can judge the quality of their faith from the way they behave. Discipline is an index to doctrine.

Pleasure has turned into habit much more quickly than I should have ever thought possible.

Whenever we are in the box, we have a need that is met by others' poor behavior. And so our boxes encourage more poor behavior in others, even if that behavior makes our lives more difficult.

A bad man, though raised to honour, always returns to his natural course, as a dog?s tail, though warmed by the fire and rubbed with oil, retains its form.*

Even a blockhead may respect inspire, So long as he is suitably attired; A fool may gain esteem among the wise, So long as he has sense to hold his tongue.