Quotes About Behavior

You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.

You are not necessarily what you say. Behavior is a much better barometer of what you are than words. What you do in your present moments is the only indicator of what you are as a person.

Guilt is the most useless of all erroneous zone behaviors. It is by far the greatest waste of emotional energy. Why? Because, by definition, you are feeling immobilized in the present over something that has already taken place, and no amount of guilt can ever change history.

Here is the guts of both self-and other-directed love. Never confuse your self-worth (which is a given) with your behavior, or the behavior of others toward you.

You cannot have a feeling without first having a thought. Your behavior is based upon your feelings, which are based upon your thoughts. So the thing to work on is not to change your behavior, but those things inside of your consciousness that we call thoughts. Once your thoughts reflect what you genuinely want to be, the appropriate emotions and the consequent behavior will flow automatically. Believe it, and you will see it!

Confidence comes from behavior, from choosing to take risks, from not worrying about failing, from not being so obsessed with whether somebody else is going to laugh at you, from not being afraid to fall down.

Be spontaneously generous to others because your inner calling demands it, not because others in their code making have determined that this is how you should behave.

Remind yourself that the fear of failure is very often the fear of someone else's disapproval or ridicule. If you let them have their own opinions, which have nothing to do with you, you can begin to evaluate your behavior in your own, rather than their terms. You'll come to see your abilities not as better or worse, but as simply different from others.

hurtful behavior could be rendered impotent if enough people were willing to live in ways that encourage cooperation and a spirit of love in place of competition and revenge.

The backdrop for virtually all neurosis is making others' behavior more significant than your own.

You can't expect to draw people into your life who are kind, confident, and generous if you're thinking and acting in cruel, weak, and selfish ways. You must be what it is that you're seeking— that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract.

Se você faz algo, seja lá o que for,e não gosta do fato em si, ou de você mesmo por tê-lo feito, pode jurar que eliminará tal comportamento voluntariamento, no futuro. Mas experimentar uma sentença de culpa autoimposta é uma viagem neurótica que você pode precisar fazer. A culpa não ajuda. Não só mantém você imobilizado, mas também estimula as oportunidades de que venha a repetir o comportamento indesejável.

It is a good sign when man's higher nature comes forward. A bad sign when his lower nature comes forward.

The logic of being able to choose your self-pictures applies to all of the photographs of you that are lodged in your brain. You are as socially adept as you choose to be. If you dislike the way you behave socially, you can work at changing the behavior and not confusing it with your own self-worth.

unless you are in sync with the Source within you, the behavior that you're offering is not inspired—it is motivated. It is not coming from Source; it is coming from the spinoff of Man's conscious mind.

Especially among Christians in positions of wealth and power, the idea of reading the Gospels and keeping Jesus' commandments as stated therein has been replaced by a curious process of logic. According to this process, people first declare themselves to be followers of Christ, and then they assume that whatever they say or do merits the adjective Christian.

If the devil doesn't exist... how do you explain that some people are a lot worse than they're smart enough to be?

Jim Adams, Kurt's nephew, found "there was a definite disconnect between the kind of guy you would imagine Kurt must be from the tone of his books, the kind of guy who would say, 'God damn it, you got to be kind,' and the reality of his behavior on a daily basis. He was a complicated, difficult man.… I think he admired the idea of love, community, and family from a distance, but couldn't deal with the complicated emotional elements they included."142

There is a great deal of human nature in man.

As for knowing the self of others, forget it. Know what they do and judge them by their works.

Third and most important: I don't really care what a public figure thinks. I care about what he does. Let God probe his inner heart. Tell me about his outer acts.

Guilt is the uncomfortable or painful feeling that results from doing something that violates or breaks a personal standard or value, or from hurting another person, or even from breaking an agreement or a law. Guilt thus concerns our behavior, feeling bad about what we have done, or about what we didn't do that we were supposed to have done.

These core issues are: control, trust, feelings, being over responsible, neglecting our own needs, all-or-none thinking and behaving, high tolerance for inappropriate behavior and low self-esteem. To these I have added being real, grieving our ungrieved losses, fear of abandonment, difficulty resolving conflict, and difficulty giving and receiving love.

Tim is learning about his high tolerance of others' inappropriate behavior and is beginning to get free of this often subtle form of mistreatment.