Quotes About Judgment

If, when you charged a person with his faults, you credited him with his virtues too, you would probably like everybody.

Critics, at least generally, want to regard works of fiction as independent entities, whose virtues and failures must be reckoned apart from the circumstances of their creation, and even apart from the intentions of their creator.

What innocence, may I ask, is being played here when it is known that this virtuous damsel has already got a dozen illegitimate children?

Shaming people into being virtuous doesn't change behaviour.

Humans make errors. We make errors of fact and errors of judgment. We have blind spots in our field of vision and gaps in our stream of attention. Sometimes we can't even answer the simplest questions.

People have a limited vision. While abroad actors such as Halle Berry have done many positive roles, we still associate short hair with negative characters.

Jack Kornfield said: "A second quality of mature spirituality is kindness. It is based on a fundamental notion of self-acceptance." In therapy we aim for self-compassion (Am I human?) versus self-esteem (a judgment: Am I good or bad?).

Like me, the women I met with at the bar were embarrassed by the way they'd dismissed men in the past, evaluating every guy as either too-something or not-something-enough. These guys didn't fit our image of the person we thought we'd end up with, leaving us to end up with nobody

difference between a criticism and a complaint, how the former contains judgment while the latter contains a request.

When the rush is there, you're not acting like yourself. You're nervous and insecure. There's no critical thinking and you make idiotic choices: I just want to rip his clothes off and breathe his air and so what if he's clinically depressed!

In therapy we aim for self-compassion (Am I human?) versus self-esteem (a judgment: Am I good or bad?).

by diminishing my problems, I was judging myself and everyone else whose problems I had placed lower down on the hierarchy of pain. You can't get through your pain by diminishing it, he reminded me. You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can't change what you're denying or minimizing. And, of course, often what seem like trivial worries are manifestations of deeper ones.

Remy didn't suggest an ounce of discourtesy, but only had a different way of talking. It's something Chester'd learned, how a person's words did not always disclose the intention of his heart. He'd been called fine things by people who feared and loathed him, and slanderous things by people who thought well on him but were ignorant.

Plus vieux, tu comprendras que, malgré les apparences, il n'y a pas de bon ou mauvais moment. Il y a un moment, point final.

When you get older you think of sadness in a different way. You don't judge it so harshly.

It's so easy to see people as less than they are, as less than people.

Don't judge people by their kinfolk. —Dutch Callahan

She loved romance novels—granted some of the titles were hokey, but that didn't affect the quality of the story inside—and it irritated her when people put them down without ever having read one.

When a man makes a specialty of knowing how some other fellow ought to spend his money, he usually thinks in millions and works for hundreds.

Dodi got a lot of criticism when he began dating Princess Diana. No one seemed to think he was good enough for her.

Like all the girls back then I knew that being too clever was much worse than being too tall. Being five foot three, tongue-tied and blonde I mostly passed muster, except that I was so unskilled in small talk that I sometimes blurted big words (hypocrisy, or pretentiousness), which jumped out of my mouth like the toads of the fairy tale before I knew it. In any case, you could cultivate the wrong sort of silence - the sort that implied brooding self-absorption rather than attentiveness.

Child, when do you think is the time to love somebody the most? When they done good and made things easy for everybody? Well then, you ain't through learning-because that ain't the time at all...when you starts measuring somebody, measure him right, child, measure him right. Make sure you done taken into account what hills and valleys he come through before he got to wherever he is.

There's a difference between being good and doing bad things. Sometimes, a person does something because he doesn't have a choice. He might not like what he did... but it doesn't make him bad.

I know you don't think he's good enough for me, but then you don't think any man is good enough for me.