Quotes About Judgment

Do not be concerned with what others have or have not done. Observe your own actions and inactions.

He who judges a situation impulsively is not righteous.

It is easy to see the flaws of others, hard to see one's own. One exposes flaws of others, yet hides one's own flaws.

This bias may be at the root of all other biases. Yet being right has little to do with making money.

We end up gathering with allies—actual, perceived, or potential—as a way of feeling justified in our own accusing views of others.

We're so convinced that how we think and feel about other people is caused by them," he says, "by what they have or haven't done, by how inconsiderate they have been to us or how judgmental, and so on. But a seventeen-year-old young woman taught me that this wasn't true. I see people the way I see them because of me.

I can be on the lookout for signs of the various common boxes, for example—ways I'm feeling better-than, or entitled, or worse-than, or anxious to be seen-as. "Then when I feel stuck in the box and desire to get out, I can find an out-of-the-box place—some place within me that is unencumbered by these boxes.

We judge one another by our outward actions, but in the motive underlying those actions our judgment may be widely at fault. Preoccupied by our own private interpretation of the matter, we can see only the one possible motive behind the action, so that our solution may be quite plausible, quite coherent, and quite wrong.

A girl's life was defined by lines: fine lines, hairlines, bikini lines, class lines, the tightrope line between being a good girl and a slut. But there was always a moment when the lines blurred and a good girl had to decide whether to toe the line, cross the line, or stay safe behind the line that guarded her virtue.

Aber man lebt doch nicht bloß in einer Welt, um schwach und zärtlich zu sein und alles mit Nachsicht zu behandeln, was gegen Gesetz und Gebot ist und was die Menschen verurteilen und, vorläufig wenigstens, auch noch - mit Recht verurteilen. (S.234)

Gideon ist besser als Botho.

And where do you get off calling yourself practical? You're a writer.

As though God has decided to drown the world again, she thought, almost wishing He would. Sometimes she thought the world needed drowning.

How could they judge him, these people, all or any one of them, even his own mother, when they did not know what his own mental, physical and spiritual suffering had been? And

Society possesses a conventional standard whereby it judges all things.

I may look like a beer salesman, but I'm a poet.

Usually when we hear or read something new, we just compare it to our own ideas. If it is the same, we accept it and say that it is correct. If it is not, we say it is incorrect. In either case, we learn nothing.

When we observe or listen to other people, we often don't see them clearly or really hear what they're saying. We see and hear our projections and prejudices instead.

Whenever you find yourself judging your partner, go back to your in-breath and out-breath, and ask, How can I see this differently? Can I look more deeply to better understand her suffering and her difficulties?

They did not know that when the mind divides reality up, when it judges and discriminates, it kills paradise. Please do not scold the sunlight. Do not chastise the clear stream or the little birds of spring.

We have a great bagful of labels we don't even know where they came from. And when we stick them onto people, we cut ourselves off from those people, and we can no longer know who they really are.

Whenever you find yourself judging your partner, go back to your in-breath and out-breath and ask, How can I see this differently? Can I look more deeply to better understand her suffering and her difficulties?

The problem is not one of being wrong or right, but one of being more or less skillful.

There is no reason why mindfulness should be different from focusing all one's attention on one's work, to be alert and to be using one's best judgment. During the moment one is consulting, resolving, and dealing with whatever arises, a calm heart and self-control are necessary if one is to obtain good results. Anyone can see that. If we are not in control of ourselves but instead let our impatience or anger interfere, then our work is no longer of any value.