Quotes About Self-acceptance

if the time we spend trying to become somebody people will love isn't wasted because the most powerful, most attractive person we can be is who we already are

exactly that girl, not the prettiest, but the no-makeup and kind of ordinary-looking girl he'd chosen to be happy

Each of us is the hero in the movie of our life. The only difference is that some of us are better at justifying our actions to ourselves, while others beat themselves up for every mistake they make.

It involves (1) adopting feelings and attitudes toward oneself that are not oppressive and harsh, (2) setting aside being inordinately self-judgmental by giving oneself messages that are self-condemning—e.g., I am such a failure—and produce shame and guilt, (3) not slandering and demeaning oneself, and (4) not beating oneself up and holding a grudge against oneself.

There were times when I thought I got a bit more punishment than was coming to me, but I don't regret a minute of it now. Each of us must be tempered in some fire. Nobody had more to do with choosing the fire that tempered me than myself, and instead of finding fault with the fire I give thanks that I had the metal to take the temper and hold it.

I have felt most successful when I am inspiring and empowering people to love and accept themselves more deeply, to open their hearts to others more fully; to trust and believe in themselves more completely, and to pursue their dreams more boldly and passionately.

When we struggle to change ourselves we, in fact, only continue the patterns of self-judgement and aggression. We keep the war against ourselves alive.

It's tricky being shy. You blame yourself for it, and other people blame you too.

But here alone, not needing to take care of anyone else and not caring very much what happened because all the worst things had already happened, she stepped into the

I wanted to climb into her world and live in it with her. She was beautiful and kind and funny and identified as "certified crazy." I learned that certified crazy meant nothing to lose, nothing to be afraid of, nothing to be self-conscious about.

Recunoa?terea sentimentelor actuale, cele pe care le avem la un moment dat - în loc s? le neg?m - este o form? de confirmare a sinelui. "Exist prin ceea ce simt ?i sunt în?eles". Gre?eala p?rin?ilor sau a educa?iei este cel mai adesea de a vrea s? negi, s? minimalizezi sau s? transformi sentimentul încercat de cel care este gelos, care se simte gelos... într-un sentiment pozitiv pe care nu-l are.

Procesul de maturizare, care ar trebui s?-l conduc? pe fiecare mai aproape de el însu?i, trece prin eliberarea progresiv? de nevoia de a fi iubit ?i aprobat. ?i mai ales de nevoia de a fi iubit pentru ceva ce nu e?ti.

And how odd a thing change was. She hadn't even recognized the shift within herself until it was already done. She hadn't felt it when she'd begun to value her own thoughts. She hadn't even believed it when she'd begun to feel wild and reckless. She'd only let it happen and never attached a word to it. Love. She'd fallen in love. Not only with Peter, but with herself too. With the wayward woman she could be. In a gown with lace and embroidery, in a tavern maid's bartered dress, and in his arms.

La vida es muy corta como para ser aburrido. Lo principal es quedar bien contigo mismo.

Among the beliefs I held about the world was that being beautiful should not matter to a woman, because it was one of those things that would go away-- your beauty would go away,and there wouldn't be anything you could do to bring it back.

And this is what it means to be able to see yourself as a sinner: far from "seeing yourself as a sinner" being some sort of moralistic demand that you browbeat yourself and come up with a list of alleged failings, being able to see yourself as a sinner is merely the sign that you are able to hold yourself peacefully and realistically as being who you are, non-defensively, because you know yourself loved. You are no longer frightened of being seen to be, or actually being, a failure.

Every man's personal proverb about himself is: "Whatever is, is right, in the best of all possible people." The

I hated myself and the world because I had failed to face and accept the limitations of my self and of life. In literature this refusal is called romanticism; in psychology, neurosis.

Understand yourself, accept yourself, but do not be yourself.

Se achar que não valho nada, serei nada. Deixarei que os outros falem, decidam, vivam por mim. Porém, se acreditar que apesar dos naturais limites e do medo todo eu mereço uma dose de coisas positivas, vou lutar por isso. Vou até permitir que os outros me amem.

People did not know what she knew, that she was not really a woman but a man, often a fat man, but more often, probably, an old man. The fact that she was an old man made it hard for her to be a young woman. It was hard for her to talk to a young man, for instance, though the young man was clearly interested in her. She had to ask herself, Why is this young man flirting with this old man?

The bus had a name too. Elaborately painted letters across the back declared it to be "Old but Sexy." It occurred to me that as I slipped inexorably into middle age, such a title might be the best I myself could hope for.

Until Gettysburg," she continued, "I was working for the wrong reasons. At first it was to prove myself worthy in someone's eyes. Later it was out of guilt, trying to find atonement in God's eyes. But atonement is free, never earned. And I've learned that the only person I need to please with my life is God.

Objecting would have only called attention to her own inadequacies, and she was determined not to do that anymore, for if she herself was tired of it, then Kesgrave must be weary to the bone. Furthermore, it served no purpose, because there was nothing he could do to alleviate her insecurities. They lived in a cold little box in the deepest heart of her, and she was the only one capable of rooting it out.