Quotes About Authenticity

He'd come back, all open and helpless, and I suppose that's what won her around in the end. But it was so sad, because it was being himself that he found so difficult to cope with.

Platitudes might satisfy for a short time, father—but soon or late, the people will realize they are being fed form without substance. What I tell them must be the truth, and I must believe it, and I must hold to it.

You must be a real thing. I finally figured out this place has linear time. I wouldn't dream something as silly as linear time, so you've got to be real.

To find the right person, you must first BE the right person.

And Mom? You're a good girl. Thank you. That's very sweet of you, Chuck Though what I was really thinking was: This is too fucking weird.

Whatever we say We're always telling each other exactly what we want them to know... We are always telling each other The truth Even when We're lying

He thinks marriage will make our love more real when marriage will only make our love more necessary. Marriage (Often) is just a publicity stunt a social security, Yes, I will stay with you BUT you don't have to marry me Marriage is not a payment or something you can 'give' me It is not something that you can do 'for' me only 'with me

So, before we go too much further, now is a good chance to acknowledge that maybe, just maybe, we are all a little guilty of sometimes living someone else's aspirations for us instead of our own. And this is a great time to say 'No more!' to living out of fear and other people's expectations.

We live in a world where everything tends to get oversold, then all too often under-delivers. I'd prefer to be known for the opposite.

Going through this phase, though, did confirm in my mind that at least Shara wasn't marrying me for either my looks or money. I was both broke and bloated. She, bless her, still loved me all the same.

Fear forces you to look tough on the outside but makes you weak on the inside.

Everyone always warms to people who can laugh at themselves. It's human nature - and the best jokes are always against ourselves. It shows character, humility and grace.

Only dialectical images are genuine images (that is, not archaic); and the place where one encounters them is language.

I'm not really sure which parts of myself are real and which parts are things I've gotten from books.

I'm partly somebody else trying to fit in and say the right things and do the right thing and be in the right place and wear what everybody else is wearing. Sometimes I think we're all trying to be shadows of each other, trying to buy the same records and everything even if we don't like them. Kids are like robots, off an assembly line, and I don't want to be a robot!

Why is life so difficult? Why can't we be just ourselves and have everyone accept us the way we are?

I'm partly somebody else trying to fit in and say the right things and do the right thing and be in the right place and wear what everybody else is wearing. Sometimes I think we're all trying to be shadows of each other, trying to buy the same records and everything even if we don't like them.

Think of all the women you know who will not allow themselves to be seen without makeup. I often wonder how they feel about themselves at night when they are climbing into bed with intimate partners. Are they overwhelmed with secret shame that someone sees them as they really are? Or do they sleep with rage that who they really are can be celebrated or cared for only in secret?

Choosing to be honest is the first step in the process of love. There is no practitioner of love who deceives. Once the choice has been made to be honest, then the next step on love's path is communication.

Queer' not as being about who you're having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but 'queer' as being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and that has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live.

We are encouraged to see honest people as naive, as potential losers.

Lying has become so much the accepted norm that people lie even when it would be simpler to tell the truth.

To be loving we willingly hear each other's truth and, most important, we affirm the value of truth telling. Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love.

I think the truth is that finding ourselves brings more excitement and well-being than anything romance has to offer, and somewhere we know that.