Quotes About Authenticity

Was it possible to live so defensively that you never got to live at all?

I tell girls all the time that the men that have fallen in love with me, have all fallen during a man repeller stage... funny how life works out like that.

Don't let your character change color with your environment. Find out who you are and let it stay its true color.

Many of the most accomplished girls are disconnecting from the truest parts of themselves, sacrificing essential self-knowledge to the pressure of who they think they ought to be.

Girls like Caroline and Lily are constantly performing, as much for the Good Girl they think they should be as for the adults and peers who look on. They have spent their lives growing internally dependent on external rewards: pats on the back A's, club presidencies, Most Valuable Player trophies. They become more concerned with how they appear and should be than who they are What other think and feel replaces what is true for them.

Be yourself and you will find, who minds doesn't matter and who matters won't mind.

When we invest ourselves in worrying about what other people think, we lose touch with what we stand for. By seeking others' approval and trying to be perfect at everything we do, we disconnect from our internal compass.

Perceiving a choice between her feelings and her relationships, Dana chose to be liked by others. But the self she displayed was a mask of the person she though others wanted her to be. The Curse of the Good Girl obscured and shamed the most important parts of who she was.

Leaning to your true feelings isn't something you're born knowing how to do. It requires practice. The great news is that these skills are like muscles, the more you use them, the stronger they get. ... And trust me, the more you listen, the louder that voice will get.

This at the very moment when a girl should explore, listen to her evolving interests, and take risks to figure out who she is. But in the Complex, she hears the opposite: Play it safe. Specialize. Trade what you love to do for what looks good and feels safe.

When we invest ourselves in worrying about other people think, we lose touch with what we stand for. By seeking others' approval and trying to be perfect at everything we do, we disconnect from our internal compass.

You are more than your job title.

I know it sounds a bit corny, but I do think that beauty and sexiness come from within.

Some of the choices teenagers make are morally and practically wrong. Some of my characters do things I hope my child won't. There are occasionally words my characters choose that I wouldn't utter in my mother's presence. But when I was sixteen, or twelve, hanging out with my friends? That was different. For a story to feel real, I have to respect what a character would really do or say.

that whole oh I care so much bull. Just to make everybody like her.

This was me, the real me, and Spider was the only person ever to have found me, to see me for who I was. And I saw him too.

If I could be who you wanted, all the time

The new pop song is about getting real: "You had a bad day." The camera don't lie. But they're lying to you about the camera.

You should never be worried about how many likes you're getting but on the life you're creating.

You could become anyone, including your real self.

Fake people tend to tell sweet lies

He has lived cloaked so long, he did not know how to reveal his heart.

And I don't believe that melodramatic feelings are laughable - they should be taken absolutely seriously.

In case nobody told you three, nobody