Quotes About Adversity

your history of relational health-your connectedness to family, community, and culture-is more predictive of your mental health than your history of adversity

Our major finding is that your history of relational health—your connectedness to family, community, and culture—is more predictive of your mental health than your history of adversity

Qué es lo que le permite a alguien tomar la decisión correcta, incluso a pesar de que no se le hayan ofrecido las oportunidades necesarias para su óptimo desarrollo?

demonstrated resilience and high academic achievement despite a range of adversities including poverty, traumatic loss, and community or intra-family violence.

As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.

asking the fundamental question "What happened to you?" can help each of us know a little more about how experiences—both good and bad—shape

asking the fundamental question "What happened to you?" can help each of us know a little more about how experiences—both good and bad—shape us.

developed post-traumatic wisdom.

A child exposed to unpredictable or extreme stress will become what we call dysregulated.

Oprah: What if you don't have the resources to get a therapist? Dr. Perry: Great question. Most people who experience adversity and trauma do not have access to therapy, let alone a clinical team like I just described. But what we're learning is that having access to a number of invested, caring people is actually a better predictor of good outcomes following trauma than having access to a therapist.

often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.

have used the term "complex trauma" to try to capture developmental neglect and maltreatment, but I believe that lumps too many things into one box.

Certainly, our work supports that observation. One of our major findings is that in determining someone's current mental health, the history of their childhood relational health—their connectedness—is as important as, if not more important than, their history of adversity.

Connectedness has the power to counterbalance adversity.

A man may be down, but he is never out.

No one aspires to be the person who handles this kind of situation well. And we don't always handle it well.

piercing a headwind,

Boards don't hit back, O'Hara

Boards don't hit back.

Remember no man is really defeated unless he is discouraged.

In the middle of chaos lies opportunity--Bruce Lee

It is not a shame to be knocked down by other people. The important thing is to ask when you're being knocked down, 'Why am I being knocked down?' If a person can reflect in this way, then there is hope for this person.

Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you. I'll not willingly offend, nor be easily offended.

Ricorda, amico mio, che non è tanto importante quello che ti succede, ma come reagisci agli eventi.