Quotes About Resilience

Better a spirit that does not quite fit in this world than one that is broken.

Interestingly, recurrent humiliation by a parent caused a slightly more detrimental impact and was marginally correlated to a greater likelihood of adult illness and depression. Simply living with a parent who puts you down and humiliates you, or who is alcoholic or depressed, can leave you with a profoundly hurtful ACE footprint and alter your brain and immunologic functioning for life.

Adults with Adverse Childhood Experiences are on alert. It's a habit they learned in childhood, when they couldn't be sure when they'd face the next high-tension situation. After her terrifying childhood illness, Michele never felt at peace, or whole, as an adult: "I was afraid I could be blindsided by any small medical crisis that could morph and change my entire life.

There is a saying that you learn how to love others through the love others show you—but what if no one showed you how? Recent findings from interpersonal biology show that early losses and chronic unpredictable stress alter the neurocircuitry of the young brain in ways that dramatically change our later ability to create and nurture successful, meaningful relationships.

In other words, Kat has a very high ACE Score of 5. And yet if you had met Kat at twenty or thirty, it's unlikely that you would have recognized the link between her childhood trauma and the many adult health—and life—hurdles that would later challenge her.

Imagine for a moment that your body receives its stress hormones and chemicals through an IV drip that's turned on high when needed, and when the crisis passes, it's switched off again. Now think of it this way: kids whose brains have undergone epigenetic changes because of early adversity have an inflammation-promoting drip of fight-or-flight hormones turned on high every day—and there is no off switch.

a person with an ACE Score of 4 or more is, statistically, 1,220 percent more likely to attempt suicide than someone with an ACE Score of 0.

That's when Kat realized that "I had let go of my pain, my story of loss, my victimhood, the grief and fear and sense of failure and shame and guilt from so much abandonment. I had to say good-bye to all the negative emotions that I had embodied over the years. Because when I let go, I was greeted by a new, deeper layer of wholeness, a sense of inner freedom.

kids whose brains have undergone epigenetic changes because of early adversity have an inflammation-pro-mot- drip of fight-or-flight hormones turned on high every day—and there is no off switch.

Ultimately, when you embrace the process of healing despite your Adverse Childhood Experiences, you don't just become who you might have been if you hadn't encountered so much childhood suffering in the first place. You gain something better: the hard-earned gift of life wisdom, which you bring forward into every arena of your life.

Or, in truth, eventually, though I still noticed, the callouses on my spirit prevented wounds (p.75).

All you need is stones... If you have enough stones and the water is shallow enough, you can build a city up through the waves.

Life Warriors. They would pay tribute to their loved ones rather than mourn them, by being bringers of light, of positive thinking, the spreaders of joy. Ch. 1, pg. 18, Lavender Blue by Donna Kauffman

She slid a little until she was sagging against the open doorframe

Like life isn't hard enough, mate. Don't borrow more sorrow.

Are you a person who peels off a band-aid slowly or just rips it off all at once?" Casey contemplated Alexa's warning, recognizing it for what it was.

I'm back to doing everything I used to, loving life as ever.

I also had to work through the violation of my date rape, my unhealthy relationships with men, my anger toward the people involved in the scandal, and those who exploited me afterwards.

Some people won't be happy until they've pushed you to the ground. What you have to do is have the courage to stand your ground and not give them the time of day. Hold on to your power and never give it away.

But for me, it is when a student has died. I find the death of a young person the most difficult and painful of times. To explain it to other young people, to see a bright future snuffed out, is just awful. I am haunted by those deaths.

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There comes a time when you don't know what your capable of anymore. Looking back, you can remember what you were capable of then, how you thought, what you did, who you loved, who people said you were. Then something happens and takes all that away, the basket of good intentions you've been toting around, the trunk of dreams you've been pulling behind you, all of its gone in an instant, and its just you, naked, bare, exposed.

Some things may never change but other things can be so completely different that they make the things that don't change bearable.

There comes a time when you don't know what your capable of anymore. Looking back, you can remember what you were capable of then, how you thought, whay you did, who you loved, who people said you were. Then something happens and takes all that away, the basked of good intentions you've been toting around, the trunk of dreams you've been pulling behind you, all of its gone in an instant, and its just you, naked, bare, exposed.