Quotes About Resilience

Almost is always the hardest, isn't it?" she said one afternoon. "Almost getting something. Almost having a baby. Almost getting a clean scan. Almost not having cancer anymore." I thought about how many people avoid trying for things they really want in life because it's more painful to get close to the goal but not achieve it than not to have taken the chance in the first place.

I want some sign of the scar tissue left behind. I want to know, in the end, that I mattered.

There's a difference between pain and suffering,

I think about how it's not knowing that torments all of us. At a certain point, we all have to come to terms with the unknown and the unknowable. Sometimes we'll never know why.

You take a risk, you fall down, and you get back up and do it all over again.

PEACE. IT DOES NOT MEAN TO BE IN A PLACE WHERE THERE IS NO NOISE, TROUBLE, OR HARD WORK. IT MEANS TO BE IN THE MIDST OF THOSE THINGS AND STILL BE CALM IN

But feelings are actually more like weather systems—they blow in and they blow out. Just because you feel sad this minute or this hour or this day doesn't mean you'll feel that way in ten minutes or this afternoon or next week.

You can't get through your pain by diminishing it, he reminded me.

Because life happens and therapy helps us confront our demons when they pay a visit. And visit they will, because everyone has demons — big, small, old, new, quiet, loud.

There is a continuing decision to be made as to whether to evade pain, or to tolerate it and therefore modify it.

But if I live in the present, I'll have to accept the loss of my future. Can I sit through the pain, or do I want to suffer?

but you don't have to suffer so much. You're not choosing the pain, but you're choosing the suffering.

The more you welcome your vulnerability, the less afraid you'll feel.

when we feel fragile, we're like raw eggs—we crack open and splatter if dropped. But when we develop more resilience, we're like hard-boiled eggs—we might get dinged up if dropped, but we won't crack completely and spill all over the place.

Mike, my colleague, had said a while back that when we feel fragile, we're like raw eggs- we crack open and splatter if dropped. But when we develop more resilience, we're like hard-boiled eggs- we might get dinged up if dropped, but we won't crack completely and spill all over the place.

I point out to her that pain can be protective; staying in a depressed place can be a form of avoidance. Safe inside her shell of pain, she doesn't have to face anything, nor does she have to emerge into the world, where she might get hurt again.

There's nothing like illness to take away a sense of control

FAILURE IS PART OF BEING HUMAN.

As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know something less commonly understood: that change and loss travel together. We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same. To help John, I'm going to have to figure out what his loss would be,

The only way out is through." The only way to get to the other side of the tunnel is to go through it, not around

Pushing aside emotions only makes them stronger.

IT DOES NOT MEAN TO BE IN A PLACE WHERE THERE IS NO NOISE, TROUBLE, OR HARD WORK. IT MEANS TO BE IN THE MIDST OF THOSE THINGS AND STILL BE CALM IN YOUR HEART.

philosopher Johann Wolfgang von Goethe succinctly summarized this sentiment: "Too many parents make life hard for their children by trying, too zealously, to make it easy for them.

I once told Wendell that Mike, my colleague, had said a while back that when we feel fragile, we're like raw eggs—we crack open and splatter if dropped. But when we develop more resilience, we're like hard-boiled eggs—we might get dinged up if dropped, but we won't crack completely and spill all over the place.