Quotes About Resilience

We don't get caught in the trap of letting the situation upset us and then having to stay upset waiting for the situation to change to our satisfaction.

Al-Anon members to live life comfortably and emotionally sober no matter what the alcoholic, or anyone else, is doing or not doing.

This requires a great deal of emotional independence.

my emotional sobriety is than that person or that situation, and I don't allow what happened to ruin the rest of my day. As mentioned before, it feels good to be emotionally independent and in control of both myself and what would otherwise be an uncomfortable situation.

But we can make progress. With practice, a good attitude, and the help of a Higher Power, we can markedly reduce both the frequency and the duration of those periods when we allow others to determine the state of our emotions.

our best defense (as stated earlier) is often our defenselessness. In Al-Anon we hear, "Don't complain and don't explain.

However, many of us, in spite of respectable lengths of time in recovery, still all too frequently lose our serenity over simple, everyday encounters.

On a daily basis, she accepts those facts and stays busy making the best of her own life.

The best thing you can do for her is to be okay yourself. We're going to let her join us in recovery; we're not going to join her in her disease.

people conducting themselves as the person God wants them to be in spite of the people, situations and circumstances that surround them.

Lacking sufficient courage ourselves, we borrow courage from courageous people and from our Higher Power, and it works.

Do this every time the thought comes back. After a while, Fox insists, it will recur less and less often until you forget it completely.

In my mind, people and situations "drove me to drink." Once I became sober, I had to learn to handle my emotions so these same people and situations could no longer do this to me.

Both must maintain their emotional independence in order to survive.

allow the offending person to "make" them feel bad today. Such situations result in self pity, an emotion with absolutely no redeeming social value, but which obviously feels good, at least for a brief interval, or it wouldn't be so popular.

I find myself writing this manuscript and talking to others about controlling feelings when I'm not always able to control my own. At times, not only can I not control my feelings, I can't control my thinking or my actions.

Furthermore, if this is true for me, then it is true for you and for every one of us. All along, we did the best we could under the circumstances at that particular time.

Feel Your Fear and Do It Anyway, or What You Think of Me Is None of My Business.

Golf is essentially an exercise in masochism conducted out-of-doors.

Senator, I started my life in a house without water or electricity. So I don't cede to you the high moral ground of not knowing what life is like in a ditch. to Senator Robert Byrd at a budget hearing

We all have strategies to distract ourselves from what we cannot bear. Memory, for example, serves such a function.

Several thousand peasants were loaded at gunpoint onto lorries and deported hundreds of miles from their homes and then left without food or money to make their own way back.

Enjoy when the judgments are in your favor, I suggested, and accept when they are not, but never put your faith in them entirely, because they are subjective, mysterious, and often meaningless things. No judgment can tell you who you are or what you can be, and no judgment is final as long as we are alive and able to put ourselves out there again and again.

After a cup of this stuff, he'd be out there plowing fields himself, probably with his bare hands.