Quotes About Self-deception

Birinden korkunca ondan nefret edersiniz ama boyuna da düÅŸünüp durursunuz onu. Kendi kendinizi aldat?rs?n?z; asl?nda kötü deÄŸildir dersiniz. Ama onu görünce, t?pk? nefes darl???na tutulmuÅŸ gibi olursunuz, soluk alamazs?n?z.

Because there was a limit to just how much you could lie to yourself.

You got these little quick passions, you blinked, and they were gone. You forgave faults, found perfection, fell madly; then the next day the sun came up and it was over. Chalk it up to experience, old girl, and get on with the morning. Buttercup stood, made her bed, changed her clothes, comber her hair, smiled, and burst out again in a fit of weeping. Because there was a limit to just how much you could lie to yourself.

Anything that makes us forget our true selves is a trap, princess—even something we love or define as beautiful.

There is no curing a sick man who believes himself to be in health.

It is as if I had been going downhill while I imagined I was going up. And that is really what it was. I was going up in public opinion, but to the same extent life was ebbing away from me. And now it is all done and there is only death.

most men do not try] to recognize the truth, but to persuade themselves that the life they are leading, which is what they like and are used to, is a life perfectly consistent with truth.

If a man decides that it is better for him to resist the demands of a present feeble love, in the name of another, of a future manifestation, he deceives either himself or other people, and loves no one but himself. Future love does not exist. Love is a present activity only. The man who does not manifest love in the present has not love.

The constant, obvious flattery, contrary to all evidence, of the people around him [Tsar Nicholas I] had brought him to the point that he no longer saw his contradictions, no longer conformed his actions and words to reality, logic, or even simple common sense, but was fully convinced that all his orders, however senseless, unjust, and inconsistent with each other, became sensible, just, and consistent with each other only because he gave them.

Both salvation and punishment for man lie in the fact that if he lives wrongly he can befog himself so as not to see the misery of his position.

In the depths of his heart Vasili Andreevich knew that it could not yet be near morning, but he was growing more and more afraid, and wished both to get to know and yet to deceive himself.

Ali ljudi – veliki, odrasli ljudi – nisu prestajali da varaju i mu?e sami sebe i jedan drugoga. Ljudi su držali da nije sveto i važno to proljetno jutro, ni ta krasota svijeta božjega stvorena za dobro svim bi?ima – krasota koja pozivlje za mir, slogu i ljubav – nego je sveto i važno ono što su izmislili oni sami da bi vladali jedan nad drugim

I led the life of so many other so-called respectable people,—that is, in debauchery. And like the majority, while leading the life of a debauche, I was convinced that I was a man of irreproachable morality.

Böyle i?te, diyordu. Dostumuz Konstantin Dmitriç ne yetenekli bir gençti. Oysa ?imdi nerede o eski Konstantin Dmitriç! O zamanlar bilimi de severdi. Üniversiteden ç?kt???nda insanlara özgü dü?ünceleri vard?. ?imdi ise yeteneklerinin yar?s? kendi kendini aldatmaya, öteki yar?s? da bu aldat??? hakl? göstermeye yönelmi? durumda. ileti?im yay?nlar?. syf :441.

That's how it's always done with us, all the wrong way round!' the Russian officers and generals said after the battle of Tarutino, just as people speak now, letting it be felt that some fool somewhere does things that way, the wrong way round, but we would not do things that way. But people who talk like that either do not know what they are talking about or are deliberately deceiving themselves.

The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.

Ma le cose, dentro di noi, sono sempre maledettamente complicate; e tanto più inganniamo noi stessi, o tentiamo, quanto più evidente e immediato si prospetta il disinganno.

Let others lie to you, but no one manages to lie to himself.

Some truths were too difficult to accept, so the mind manufactured excuses as a way of denying what it already knew.

He needs a wife who will love him enough to tell him the truth and to respectfully challenge his selfishness, his self-absorption, and his self-deception.

In some marriages, trying harder does not engender a reciprocal response. It has the opposite effect. It feeds the fantasy that the sole purpose of your life is to serve your husband, make him happy, and meet his every need. It feeds his belief of entitlement and his selfishness, and it solidifies his self-deception that it is indeed all about him.

It is not your husband's lies that will do the most damage to you. It's the lies you tell yourself.

The trouble about trying to make yourself stupider than you really are is that you very often succeed.

We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter.