Quotes About Self-esteem

But Ã¢â'¬Â¦ Steris!" he said. "You'll end up humiliating yourself." She closed her eyes. "Dear Lord Waxillium. Earlier, you spoke of the power of not caring about what others thought of you. Do you remember?" "Yes." "Well, you see," she said, opening her eyes and smiling, "I'm trying to practice that skill." She proceeded to vomit all over the table. *

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it's a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.

We're raising children who have little tolerance for disappointment

We put so much of our time and energy into making sure that we meet everyone's expectations and into caring about what other people think of us, that we are often left feeling angry, resentful and fearful.

Until we teach our children that they need to be concerned with how they look and with what other people think, they dance.

We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.

The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging.

The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy now, right this minute.

For example, when I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

We don't judge people when we feel good about ourselves.

the hustle for worthiness.

How do we define worthiness, and why do we so often end up hustling for it rather than believing in it?

If we want to fully experience love and belonging we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.

No. Shame and self-esteem are very different issues. We feel shame. We think self-esteem.

We feel shame. We think self-esteem. Our self-esteem is based on how we see ourselves—our strengths and limitations—over time. It is how and what we think of ourselves. Shame is an emotion. It is how we feel when we have certain experiences. When we are in shame, we don't see the big picture; we don't accurately think about our strengths and limitations. We just feel alone, exposed and deeply flawed. My friend and

the self-compassion seat is for us. It's a reminder that if we can't cheer ourselves on, we shouldn't expect others to do it. If we don't make our values priorities, we can't ask others to do it for us.

The adults I interviewed who were raised by parents who used shame as a primary parenting tool had much more difficulty believing in their worthiness than the participants who experienced shame occasionally and were able to talk about it with their parents.

tired of hustling for our self-worth.

perfectionism is not teaching them how to strive for excellence or be their best selves. Perfectionism is teaching them to value what other people think over what they think or how they feel. It's teaching them to perform, please, and prove.

Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to someone you live. Most of us shame, belittle and criticize ourselves in ways we'd never think of doing to others. I would never look at Ellen or Charlie and say, "God, you're so stupid!" Yet I can whisper that to myself in a heartbeat. p158

we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.

is negatively correlated with self-esteem and positively correlated with narcissism and shame-proneness.

No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.

When I think about my self-esteem, I think about who I am in relation to who I want to be, where I come from, what I've overcome and what I've accomplished. When I feel shame, I'm taken back to this place of smallness where I lose that sense of context. I'm returned to a small place—I can't see