Quotes About Reciprocity

If you ask me, I think it should be an eye for an eye. On everything.

Be fair with others, but then keep after them until they're fair with you.

We've always believed in fair trade.

Ask me for my shirt off my back, I'll give it to you. Tell me? Not a chance.

You can't get there alone. People have to help you, and I do believe in karma. I believe in paybacks. You get people to help you by telling the truth, by being earnest.

the only effective charity is the kind that asks more from those being served, rather than less. Asking for more sends an affirming message to the recipient that he or she also has something of value to offer.

Don't get mad, get even.

An eye for an eye" won't work because all it does is double the number of eyeless people.

Love never comes but at love's call, And pity asks for him in vain; Because I cannot give you all, You give me nothing back again.

One man gathers what another man spills

Better yet, combine your warmth and flattery with requests that they do a small favor or two FOR YOU. This strategy is akin to what author David McRaney calls "the Benjamin Franklin effect," which is based on experiments that show we come to like people that we do nice things for and to dislike people that we treat unkindly.

These malicious takers immediately start conniving to exploit people for their own purposes—but back off when they encounter uncooperative and selfish people like themselves.

We love Him because He first loved us. – 1 John 4:19

trust that the principle of reciprocity is true

The five familiar and well-defined relationship patterns, as described by Bowen, are: Conflict Distance Cutoff Dysfunctional spouse (also called over/underfunctioning reciprocity) Dysfunctional child (also called triangling)

To begin the work of changing a relationship of overfunctioning/ underfunctioning reciprocity, one must not ask, "How can I change this troublesome partner of mine?" Instead the question is, "What is my contribution to this relationship pattern?

It was blissful, spending time with someone who would leave you alone. I loved him for it. And I was happy to repay in kind.

Paying attention is a form of reciprocity with the living world, receiving the gifts with open eyes and open heart.

It turns out that a reciprocity strategy can work better; give visitors the info they want and then ask for their information. Italian researchers found that twice as many visitors gave up their contact data if they were able to access the information first. It

Burke saw society as an association of the dead, the living and the unborn. It's binding principle is not contract, but something more akin to love. Society is a shared inheritance for the sake of which we learn to circumscribe our demands, to see our own place in things as part of a continuous chain of giving and recieving, and to recognize that the good things we inherit our not ours to spoil.

giving him more generous sympathy than he received in return

Why does the benefactor love the recipient more than the recipient loves the benefactor? Because the benefactor lives in the recipient, the way in which the poet lives in the poem.

The Talmud expresses subtle relationship in an apocryphal story of a dialogue between God and Abraham. God begins by chiding Abraham: "If it wasn´t for Me, you wouldn´t exist."Lord, and for that I am very appreciative and grateful. However, if it wasn´t for me, You wouldn´t be known.

He was part of my dream, of course -- but then I was part of his dream, too.