Quotes About Assertiveness

He wants me to boss you around. We'll pick up a pair of stilettos on the way home, he said. I said, I need to go back to Philiadelphia.

You're going to lose him, Jane, Faith said. I won't. Yes, Faith said. You will. Okay, but I'll lose him my way, I say.

I've never said it to his face, but sometimes he can be a little controlling. He tries to tell me what to wear, how to do my hair, that I'm too loud sometimes.

the only weapon I bring to a conversation is a knife. A gun means the talking is over.

Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.

We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths

People may get angry at us for setting boundaries; they can't use us anymore. They may try to help us feel guilty so we will remove our boundary and return to the old system of letting them use or abuse us. Don't feel guilty and don't back down.

We don't have to be controlled by what other people say; we don't have to try to control them with our words and special effects. We don't have to be manipulated, guilted, coerced, or forced into anything. We can open our mouths and take care of ourselves! Learn to say: "I love you, but I love me, too. This is what I need to do to take care of me." We

Start by knowing that who we are is okay. Our feelings and thoughts are okay. Our opinions count. It's okay to talk about our problems. And it's okay to say no. We

Set boundaries even when you're scared, and when it doesn't feel comfortable to do. Eventually setting boundaries will happen naturally for you

We can own our power with people. Buy some time. Think about what you want. Consider how responding to another's needs will affect the course of your life. We live or own life by not letting other people, their expectations, and their demands control the course of our life. We can let them have their demands and expectations; we can allow them to have their feelings. We can own our power to choose the path that is right for us.

Spontaneity emerges as our confidence and trust in ourselves increase, and we become more secure in our ability to maintain healthy boundaries.

We can ask for information and use words to forge a closer connection, but we don't have to take people around the block with our conversations. We don't have to listen to, or participate in, nonsense. We can say what we want and stop when we're done.

All of me, every aspect of my being, is important. I count for something. I matter. My feelings can be trusted. My thinking is appropriate. I value my wants and needs. I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment. I have rights, and it is my responsibility to assert these rights. The decisions I make and the way I conduct myself will reflect my high self-esteem.

When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to say it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.

Anger, rage, complaining, and whining are clues to boundaries we need to set.

Learn the words: "This is what I need from you. This is what I want from you.

You can spoil your fun, your day, your life—that's your business—but I won't let you spoil my fun, my day, or my life.

I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment.

We don't have to be controlled by what other people say; we don't have to try to control them with our words and special effects. We don't have to be manipulated, guilted, coerced, or forced into anything. We can open our mouths and take care of ourselves! Learn to say: "I love you, but I love me, too. This is what I need to do to take care of me.

If we absolutely can't feel good about something we're doing, then we shouldn't do it - no matter how charitable it seems. We also shouldn't do things for others that they ought to and are capable or doing for themselves. Other people aren't helpless. Neither are we.

When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.

If it's a choice between being shat on and pissed on and used and being a bastard, I'll choose being a bastard any time.

My parents can take themselves off on a scenic tour of hell before they tell me who my friends will be," Gan said pleasantly.