Quotes About Assertiveness

Negotiating small differences is part of being a grownup; no one can tell you in advance where to put your foot down.

Hard position when you don't want to be a dictator but you want your own way," Eleanor wrote Hick.

A friend who is a high-level executive, intimidating to many, recently promoted a courageous employee who walked into his office with a large bucket of sand and poured it on the rug. "What the hell are you doing?" demanded my friend. The

A friend who is a high-level executive, intimidating to many, recently promoted a courageous employee who walked into his office with a large bucket of sand and poured it on the rug. "What the hell are you doing?" demanded my friend. The employee replied, "I just figured I'd make it easier for you to bury your head in the sand on the topic I keep bringing up and you keep avoiding." You

Not being financially strapped was empowering. It's a lot easier to ask for something if you're in a position to walk away if they say no.

The main boy—the one who was calling the shots—pushed

Go and take what you want from life, Arnufo liked to counsel him. Don't wait for it to hand you something. Things given away freely are given away for a reason—because no one else wants them.

right, are you lass? You're not

I haven't got as much money as some folks, but I've got as much impudence as any of them, and that's the next thing to money.

Sable hair bisected his pecs and arrowed down to the straight and unequivocal statement of his returned interest. Forcing my gaze to his face, I said, "I really don't think we have time for that." "You know that, and I know that, but HE doesn't believe it." "Believe it," I told HIM. J.X.'s mouth tugged into one of those heart-stopping smiles. "Maybe you should whisper in his ear.

I'm never wrong? Who besides Republican presidents and evil masterminds can say that with a straight face?

You walk like you own everything you see.

You don't ever let a man say 'My way or nothing' to you. Not even a good man. Not even my son. And you never say 'My way or nothing' to him. You don't take your sweetheart's love and use it on him. You can do that to your mama, but not your sweetheart." I smiled at that.

women who get the most participation from men are those who are comfortably assertive in their expectations of that participation.8 If you feel overly responsible or guilt-ridden about wanting your husband to pull his weight, you'll be at the mercy of his goodwill. This is not where you want to be in the modern-day, stressed-out marriage where everybody's trying to steal a few minutes of down time.

He's lucky I'm not wearing my six-inch fuck-me stilettos.

You will bend," I said. "For me, whenever and however I wish." My breath catching, I added, "But you will never break. You're far too strong for that and besides, I won't let you.

Stop being tomented by everyone else's reaction to you.

If someone tries to use you as a tool, you shouldn't mind it, because it is their choice and folly, not yours.

What isn't expressed in any of the definitions given above is a perception of the witch as a figure of female empowerment: in a world of good, polite, agreeable, well-behaved, passive girls, the witch is an independent, empowered, autonomous, frequently assertive, and defiant woman, beholden to no one. (Unless,

Miss Manners' meager arsenal consists only of the withering look, the insistent and repeated request, the cold voice, the report up the chain of command and the tilted nose. They generally work.

You are mad!" she snapped, her chest heaving. "And you are a devil!" "And you, my dear," Royce imperturbably replied, "are a bitch." With that, he turned to the horrified friar and unhesitatingly announced, "The lady and I wish to be wed.

Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön warns against what she insightfully terms "idiot compassion"—using kindness to avoid conflict when a resounding "no" is required. I completely agree. To preserve our emotional freedom, we must know where to draw the line.

Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön warns against what she calls "idiot compassion," using kindness to avoid conflict when a definite no is required. There's a right time to give and a right time to say no.

I've actually left a lunch with friends when a man there got enraged with his spouse. His rage hurt me. In situations like that, I am fierce about protecting my energy, so I said to my friends, "Please excuse me. I'm feeling tired," and politely left. It was awkward, but I chose my well-being over "social correctness" and sticking it out.