Quotes About Assertiveness

When we talk about a person being a problem, rather than directly to the person, we add to the underground anxiety and make it harder for the talked-about person to behave with confidence and competence.

Finding your voice in an unequal power arrangement—especially when the more powerful person is shaming you—takes a great amount of courage.

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And when someone accuses you of being selfish, just remember that he's upset only because you aren't doing what he selfishly wants you to do.

for me to ask for a raise is—is demeaning.

Carry the battle to them. Don't let them bring it to you. Put them on the defensive. And don't ever apologize for anything.

I shall continue to do what I think is right, whether anybody likes it or not.

I am] just a common everyday man whose instincts are to be ornery, who's anxious to be right.

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself.

Ellis, A. (2003) How To Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons. New York: Citadel Press.

People can only really bother you if you let them.

Don't you DARE tell me how to eat a chocolate!

Christa, you're my wife. Why won't you give in to me?" "I don't know what you're talking about." He rose up on an elbow. "Yes, you do. You're flesh and blood, and you're very much a woman. And you're doing your damned best to deny me." "I didn't deny you anything," she said. "You did, and you know it.

He shook his head. "Scrub my back—and tell me more about the trip out here." "Ask me nicely." His silver eyes touched hers. "All right. Please scrub my back and tell me about the trip." She smiled, and tossed the washcloth his way. "No!" "All right, you little southern vixen," he warned. "Scrub my back or—" "Or what?" "I'll climb out of this tub, drag you back into it, and scrub yours.

I used to admire people who could hang with anything. Now the women I admire the most are women who never pretend to be different than they are. Women like that express their anger. They admit when they're down. They don't beat themselves up over their bad moods. They allow themselves to be grumpy sometimes. They grant themselves the right to be grouchy, or to say nothing, or to decline your offer without a lengthy explanation.

Refusing to smile, refusing to agree, refusing to comply: These things mean that you are difficult and you want to be unhappy.

Hold your own space and honor yourself and don't let that space shrink or collapse in the company of indifference. Don't ask indifference to love you. Indifference can go fuck itself. This is your life, and it's going to be big and bright and beautiful.

Repeating yourself is brave. Repeating yourself calls attention to what you are saying.

And she doesn't even ask what I want to do. When

If Nana thinks you're trying to scam her, she'll tell you, and if she thinks you ruined her life by discontinuing Arnold's Thin bread, she'll let you know that, too. I guess when you spend eighty-seven years swallowing other people's bullshit, there comes a time when you gotta spit some back.

I think it's funny when people assume that I have to put up with their insulting shit to my face. Rude awakening, table for one please.

The domestic cat seems to have greater confidence in itself than in anyone else.

But one thing she'd learned was that if a girl didn't ask, a girl wouldn't get.