Quotes About Assertiveness

When people want to get appreciation and fear they are not, their behavior becomes more attention getting, forcing others to notice them.

And this is a free country. I'll say what I please to whomever I like.

I'm a big girl, Finn.

One must fight for a life of action, not reaction.

Once you give an ultimatum, you have to mean it. You can't pull back. Sometimes your 'or else' is all the power you have and you can't be afraid to do what you threaten to do.

What's the link between the woman who boldly fights for social justice and the one who boldly has fun? Both are acting powerfully, because each is rejecting preconceived notions of how females 'should' behave.

Do not humiliate, disrespect or embarrass; always speak with a soft tongue when holding your ground. To be loud, rude and obnoxious will negate the argument and advantage. And truth is always mandatory.

How many times have we encountered a person that states, "can I ask a question," and proceeds to ask the question before you can respond. In these cases, they've given us a choice and then take it away. What they're really doing here, is making a statement and not asking you to decide.

Brother Jim loved to talk about how Jesus wasn't a pussy.

No, you're not like me. You're better. A better person, a better goddamn everything. Now, eat your breakfast. And if you open your mouth to say you aren't everything I know you are, I'll stuff that bagel in it. Plain. Without cream cheese. Healthy food--the ultimate threat.

Pick up your clothes. I am not your maid. How do I know this? A maid cannot kill you with a tube sock. I can.

you cannot please everyone, so why please anyone at all?

Decisions are now made by one individual, rather than by a committee. He no longer has to mind read, predict, or try to please multiple voices with conflicting agendas. When putting himself first all the information he needs to make a decision is within him: "Is this what I want? Yes. Then that's what I'll do.

Breaking Free Activity #34 Are there any areas in your personal relationships in which you avoid setting appropriate boundaries? Do you: •?Tolerate intolerable behavior. •?Avoid dealing with a situation because it might cause conflict. •?Not ask for what you want. •?Sacrifice yourself to keep the peace. If you applied the Second Date rule or the Healthy Male rule to these situations, how might you change your behavior?

Being integrated means being able to accept all aspects of one's self. An integrated man is able to embrace everything that makes him unique: his power, his assertiveness, his courage, and his passion, as well as his imperfections, his mistakes, and his dark side.

In time, they also learn that boundary setting isn't about getting other people to be different. It's about getting themselves to be different. If someone is crossing their boundary, it isn't the other person's problem; it is theirs.

By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves.

Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.

Professionals speak truth to power. Professionals have the courage to say no to their managers. How do you say no to your boss? After all, it's your boss! Aren't you supposed to do what your boss says? No. Not if you are a professional. Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.

Professionals speak truth to power. Professionals have the courage to say no to their managers. How do you say no to your boss? After all, it's your boss! Aren't you supposed to do what your boss says? No. Not if you are a professional. Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who has the guts to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.

Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who has the guts to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.

You don't have to be nice all the time. Get angry once in a while. You're entitled.

Some people, too, are inveterately passive: they are waiting for you to make the bold move, and if you don't, they will think you are weak.

We don't say what we feel even when it would be appropriate, and we fail to set boundaries to people's harmful behavior. We find it hard to ask for a raise or a promotion or the respect due to us. Losing our bold spirit, a positive form of aggression, is losing a deep part of our self, and it is inevitably painful.