Quotes About Communication

her first conversation with Matt, one that lasted until dawn and still hasn't ended.

It's not that she's hiding her feelings; it's that she can't access them. There's a words for this kind of emotional blindness: alexithymia. She doesn't know what she's feeling of doesn't have the words to express it.

Before you speak, ask yourself, What is this going to feel like to the person I'm speaking to?

Years later, when I've done thousands of first sessions, and information-gathering has become second nature, I'll use a different barometer to judge how it went: Did the patient feel understood? It always amazes me that someone can walk into a room as a stranger and then, after fifty minutes, leave feeling understood, but it happens nearly every time. When it doesn't, the patient doesn't return. And because Michelle did, something had gone right.

Sometimes the changes you want in another person aren't on that person's agenda—even if he tells you they are.

A therapist will hold up a mirror to patients, but patients will also hold up a mirror to their therapists.

Talking can keep people in their heads and safely away from their emotions.

I've told her about the many relationships I've seen implode simply because one person was terrified of being abandoned and so did everything in his or her power to push the other person away. She is starting to see that what makes self-sabotage so tricky is that it attempts to solve one problem (alleviate abandonment anxiety) by creating another (making her partner want to leave).

People communicate through their attendance—whether they're prompt or late, cancel an hour beforehand, or don't show up at all.

Wendell says that if I've been taking such copious notes during our phone calls, I probably haven't been able to listen to Boyfriend, and if my goal is to be open to understanding his perspective, that's hard to do when I'm trying to prove a point rather than have an interaction in earnest. And, he adds, I'm doing the same thing to him in our sessions.

Across the country—at coffee with friends, in meetings at work, during lunch at school, in front of the cashier at Target, and at the family dinner table—people were texting and Tweeting and shopping, sometimes pretending to make eye contact and sometimes not even bothering.

She wasn't willing to look at what she was doing that made it difficult for people to give her what she wanted.

It's not that she's hiding her feelings; it's that she can't access them. There's a word for this kind of emotional blindness: alexithymia. She doesn't know what she's feeling or doesn't have the words to express it.

You have two ears and one mouth; there's a reason for that ratio"),

Every relationship is a dance. The Dude does his dance steps (approach/retreat), and Charlotte does hers (approach/get hurt)—that's how they dance. But once Charlotte changes her steps, one of two things will happen—the Dude will be forced to change his steps so that he doesn't trip and fall down, or he'll simply walk off the dance floor and find somebody else's feet to stomp on.

Words have power," Isaac answered. Words begin and end wars. They create and destroy families. They break hearts. They heal them. If you have the right words, there's nothin on earth you can't do." - Crave the Moon

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Remy didn't suggest an ounce of discourtesy, but only had a different way of talking. It's something Chester'd learned, how a person's words did not always disclose the intention of his heart. He'd been called fine things by people who feared and loathed him, and slanderous things by people who thought well on him but were ignorant.

If something upset her, she usually talked about it or cried and then got on the road to getting over it or changing it. … Kate had a tendency to bury her hurts deep inside and when they tried to rear their ugly heads, she effectively pushed them right back down. Kate gave the appearance of handling upsets well, when in actuality she did not handle them at all.

Friendships take just as much TLC as romantic relationships.

Whiplash chatter. That was his Zoey.

He took hold of her chin with a thumb and forefinger. "Hold still. It will be over in a sec." "That's what she said," Kasha deadpanned. Chuckling, Axel shook his head. "You look all serious and quiet and then you drop these little humor bombs so unexpected that they sail over most people's heads.

There are three ways to argue with a woman. None of them work. —Dutch Callahan

I remember reading once that some fellows use language to conceal thought; but it's been my experience that a good many more use it instead of thought.