Quotes About Communication

Boundaries are simply clearly stated parameters that provide a safe structure for communication and the health of a relationship.

The emptiness in your heart because that person you love doesn't seek to really understand you, rarely cheers you on, and doesn't seem to want to connect intimately with you.

Which has really gotten me thinking about all the many times I assign thoughts to others that they never actually think. I hold them accountable to harsh judgments they never make. And I own a rejection from them they never gave me.

I don't know what to say or how to say it." So I said nothing. Not a word. I stuffed it all down and started to build a barrier to hide behind. After the incident, I smiled when I saw her, but I held her at a distance. She knew something was wrong, but when she questioned me about it, I lied. "Everything's fine," I said. But everything wasn't fine. Not at all.

I stuff because: I don't feel safe enough to confront this person. I don't have the energy or the time to get into a conflict right now. I don't know how to address the issue. I don't want to seem hypersensitive. I don't want to get rejected. I don't want to lose control. I don't want to make things worse, so I convince myself I can just let it go.

When we give relational access to us, it should never lead to "less safety, less sanity, or less strengthening for the individuals in the relationship.

Tackle issues not people. Am I trying to prove my point or improve the relationship?

Proximity and activity don't always equal connectivity.

No, it's not wrong to need people. But some of our biggest disappointments in life are the result of expectations we have of others that they can't ever possibly meet. That's when the desire to connect becomes an unrealistic need. Unrealistic neediness is actually greediness in disguise. It's saying, "My needs and desires deserve to tap into or possibly even deplete yours." This will never set a relationship up for success.

If the person you are trying so hard not to disappoint will be displeased by a no, they'll eventually be disappointed even if you say yes.

Whenever any kind of relationship conflict arises, my choice is whether to give the other person power to control my emotions.

Love can be unconditional but relational access never should be. Notice that the words sin and iniquity

Or, "Most of the time when you open your mouth, make known the gospel. But if you're feeling really, really hurt, rally other people around your cause and make this other person look as bad as you can.

Nothing will give you emotional laryngitis like living in close proximity to someone who refuses to listen. Having emotions but no voice chokes the life out of relationships.

When a man is physically present but emotionally absent, a girl's heart can feel quite hollow and helpless.

two types of stuffer reactions: stuffers who build barriers and stuffers who collect retaliation rocks.

Barriers shut down communication.

placing unrealistic expectations on others. After all, people will not respect us more than we respect ourselves.

remember not every face-to-face confrontation needs a verbal response

Choosing a gentle reply doesn't mean you're weak; it actually means you possess a rare and godly strength.

all the many times I assign thoughts to others that they never actually think. I hold them accountable to harsh judgments they never make. And I own a rejection from them they never gave me.

coated with unmet expectations. So, what do I do? Well, I've found it tremendously helpful to list the expectations I have of a relationship in which I'm feeling slighted. Then I prayerfully discern whether or not my expectations are realistic or unrealistic. And if I can't really discern one way or the other, I ask. I ask God. I ask that person. I ask someone wise who knows both of us well.

Sometimes relationships grow stronger through conflict; other times relationships end.

Love can be unconditional but relational access never should be