Quotes About Neglect

We had not written or phoned or called or even sent a lousy card. We were young: we had our troubles. If there is a hell it should be for selfishness.

It is like the indictment of the prophets: I hate your solemn assemblies, because you neglect the poor.5 If we really believe Scripture, then we have to face the very real possibility that our experience of church, where the majority of people have neglected the poor and have refused to make disciples, might mean the withdrawing of the tangible presence of God from our gatherings.

He is always near you and with you; leave Him not alone. You would think it rude to leave a friend alone, who came to visit you: why then must GOD be neglected? Do not then forget Him, but think on Him often, adore Him continually live and die with Him; this is the glorious employment of a Christian; in a word, this is our profession, if we do not know it we must learn it.

A certain combination of incompetence and indifference can cause almost as much suffering as the most acute malevolence.

I am ignoring you. In fact, I think you are a figment of my imagination.

the parent is consistent, predictable, and nurturing, the stress-response systems become resilient. If the stress-response systems are activated in prolonged ways or chaotic ways, as in cases of abuse or neglect, they become sensitized and dysfunctional.

Neglect is most destructive early in life, when the brain is rapidly growing; early neglect interferes with the child's getting the necessary stimulation required for normal development.

The lesson for me was that a key aspect of What happened to you? is What didn't happen for you? What attention, nurturing touch, reassurance—basically, what love—didn't you get? I realized that neglect is as toxic as trauma. —Dr. Perry

And just as with trauma, several essential questions can help us assess whether a situation is neglectful, and if so, how great the impact will be. When during development did the neglect take place? What was the pattern? How severe or depriving was the neglect? How long did it last? And, since absolute neglect is rare, what 'buffering' factors were present when the neglect occurred?

I always felt like a burden, an "extra mouth to feed." I rarely remember feeling loved. From as early as I can remember, I knew I was on my own.

What I've learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what

What didn't happen for you? What attention, nurturing touch, reassurance—basically, what love—didn't you get? I realized that neglect is as toxic as trauma.

do think that, in most cases, neglect and trauma co-occur. But they cause very different biological experiences and can have very different effects on the brain and the developing child. Some people

have used the term "complex trauma" to try to capture developmental neglect and maltreatment, but I believe that lumps too many things into one box.

There was no time for nurturing. I was always trying not to bother her or worry her. My mother felt distant, cold to the needs of this little girl. All of the energy went to keeping her head above water, surviving. I always felt like a burden, an "extra mouth to feed." I rarely remember feeling loved. From as early as I can remember, I knew I was on my own.

Though we all ''perform'' for others to some extent, the mask slips easily for those who have sufferd early neglect.

Jung called this practice counterbalancing one-sidedness. Our lives become too tilted toward one aspect of our identity and too tilted away from others. We're all familiar with these scenarios. We become so obsessed with our work we neglect our family; we become so consumed with caring for children we overlook ourselves; we become so focused on serving others we ignore our loved ones. The more purely one thing we are, the more in danger we are of overlooking other things.

Neglect is as toxic as trauma.

Block City had nothing to give back.

Neglect of prayer signals serious deficiencies in a ministry even if other signs of success have not diminished. We must always remember that popular acclaim is not necessarily the same as spiritual effectiveness. The

If I had a dollar for every single time [Stephen Malkmus] said, 'it doesn't matter', I wouldn't have to work.

What is a neglected child? He is a child not planned for, not wanted. Neglect begins, therefore, before he is born.

A wise and salutary neglect.

In times of strong emotion mankind disdain all base considerations.