Quotes About Acceptance

This doesn't mean that we stop helping people set goals or that we stop expecting people to grow and change. It means that we stop respecting and evaluating people based on what we think they should accomplish, and start respecting them for who they are and holding them accountable for what they're actually doing.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen!

my favorite quote about darkness and compassion from Pema Chödrön, who writes: "Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.

The delta between I am a screwup and I screwed up may look small, but in fact it's huge.

The most valuable and important things in my life came to me when I cultivated the courage to be vulnerable, imperfect, and self-compassionate.

them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame,

Não importa o que eu faça e quanto ainda fique por fazer, eu sou bom o bastante. Significa deitar todas as noites pensando: Sim, sou imperfeito e vulnerável, às vezes fico com medo, mas isso não muda o fato de que sou corajoso e digno de amor e de aceitação. Os dois primeiros livros são como um "chamado

Now I understand the quote from Theodore Roosevelt: "Comparison is the thief of joy.

No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear." We can't rise strong when we're on the run.

Here is what you need to know about disappointment: Disappointment is unmet expectations, and the more significant the expectations, the more significant the disappointment.

Both disappointment and regret arise when an outcome was not what we wanted, counted on, or thought would happen. With disappointment, we often believe the outcome was out of our control (but we're learning more about how this is not always the case). With regret, we believe the outcome was caused by our decisions or actions.

The special courage it takes to experience true belonging is not just about braving the wilderness, it's about becoming the wilderness.

I've come to believe that we all want to show up and be seen in our lives. This means we will all struggle and fall; we will know what it means to be both brave and brokenhearted.

Knowledge is important, but only if we're being kind and gentle with ourselves as we work to discover who we are.

to grow up is to accept vulnerability.

Putting people on the "loser board" doesn't work. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Goal-setting:

that ability to recognize shame when we experience it, and move through it in a constructive way that allows us to maintain our authenticity and grow from our experiences.

Children experience shame as the threat of being unlovable.

Which means we don't "fix it" by cutting people down to size and reminding folks of their inadequacies and smallness. Shame is more likely to be the cause of these behaviors, not the cure.

Researchers Tamara Ferguson, Heidi Eyre, and Michael Ashbaker have found that "unwanted identity" is one of the primary elicitors of shame. They explain that unwanted identities are characteristics that undermine our vision of our ideal selves. Sick, unreliable, and undependable are huge unwanted identities for me.

The Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia is another tremendous resource. Their definitions are very helpful when thinking about grief. I think the most important line is "When a person adapts to a loss grief is not over." It doesn't mean that we're sad the rest of our lives, it means that "grief finds a place" in our lives. Imagine a world in which we honor that place in ourselves and others rather than hiding it, ignoring it, or pretending it doesn't exist.

Waits by Sue Monk Kidd6 and Pema Chödrön's Comfortable

we must also remember that our worthiness, that core belief that we are enough, comes only when we live inside our story.

Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging. This