Quotes About Acceptance

The therapist explained that often different parts of ourselves want different things, and if we silence the parts we find unacceptable, they'll find other ways to be heard.

There is something likable in everyone. And to my great surprise, I found that she was right. It's impossible to get to know people deeply and not to come to like them.

I would have to cope with not knowing what my future held, manage my worry, and focus on living now.

We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same. To

For many people, going into the depths of their thoughts and feelings is like going into a dark alley—they don't want to go there alone. People come to therapy to have somebody to go there with, and people watch John's show for a similar reason: it makes them feel less alone, allows them to see a version of themselves muddling through life

You can have compassion without forgiving.

As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know something less commonly understood: that change and loss travel together. We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.

Now I keep in mind that none of us can love and be loved without the possibility of loss but that there's a difference between knowledge and terror.

our awareness of death helps us live more fully—and with less, not more, anxiety.

What people don't like to think about is that you can do everything right—in life or in a treatment protocol—and still get the short end of the stick. And when that happens, the only control you have is how you deal with that stick—your way, not the way others say you should. I'd let Julie do it her way—I was so inexperienced that I didn't have a strong sense of what a "way" should look like—and it seemed to help.

Just because she sends you guilt doen't mean you have to accept delivery.

Maybe everything they complain about isn't actually a problem! Maybe it's fine the way it is. Maybe it's even great, like their haircut. Maybe they'd be happier if they didn't try to change things. Just be.

You can't get through your pain by diminishing it,

You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can't change what you're denying or minimizing. And, of course, often what seem like trivial worries are manifestations of deeper ones.

Are people really supposed to be done grieving after two months? Can't grief last six months or a year or, in some form or another, an entire lifetime?

This bereavement exclusion no longer exists, partly because of the timeline: Are people really supposed to be done grieving after two months? Can't grief last six months or a year or, in some form or another, an entire lifetime?

If we don't accept the notion that there's no redo, much as we try to get our parents or siblings or partners to fix what happened years ago, our pasts will keep us stuck.

Wouldn't it be nice to be one of those people who doesn't overthink anything, who just goes with the flow—who lives the unexamined life?

Não podemos ter mudança sem perda, motivo pelo qual é tão frequente as pessoas dizerem que querem mudar, mas mesmo assim continuarem exatamente iguais.

What makes therapy challenging is that it requires people to see themselves in ways they normally choose not to. A therapist will hold up the mirror in the most compassionate way possible, but it's up to the patient to take a good look at that reflection

The truth comes with a cost: the need to face reality.

Sometimes the changes you want in another person aren't on that person's agenda—even if he tells you they are.

deathbeds themselves are often a stew of drugs, fear, confusion, weakness.

John points to his tears. "See?" he says. "My fucking humanity." "It's magnificent," I say.