Quotes About Acceptance

Imagine feeling empty, virtually without a self. Now think about admitting that what little self you can recognize has something wrong with it. To many people with BPD, this is like ceasing to exist—a terrifying feeling for anyone.

didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it. get off the BP's back. get out of the BP's way. get on with your own life.

They may then try to cope in ways that do not work, or that even make the situation worse. Meanwhile, the unhealthy behaviors of the person with BPD get reinforced, because others accept responsibility for the feelings and actions that actually belong to the person with the disorder.

Once you begin to accept that a mentally ill person will sometimes behave irrationally, you alleviate some of your own internal stress and strain… [O]nce you do so you can begin to develop more effective coping mechanisms. No longer burdened by the "what-ifs" and "shoulds" in your mind, you can deal with the way things really are. And you seek out what works.

Memorize the three Cs and the three Gs: I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it. get off their back. get out of the way. get on with your own life.

Denial of problems only enables and reinforces the negative behaviors.

The right to say 'no' strengthens emotional boundaries. So does the freedom to say 'yes,' respect for feelings, acceptance of differences, and permission for expression.

Your feelings need to be validated just as much as those of the person with BPD.

Elan Golomb (1992) says: To grow up as a whole person, children in their formative stages need the experience of genuine acceptance; they have to know they are truly seen and yet are perfect in their parent's eyes; they need to stumble and sometimes fall, only to be greeted by a parent's commiserating smile. Through parental acceptance, children learn that their "is-ness," their essential selves, merit love.

Low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem often try to relieve their shame by being good. "Goodness" comes from sacrificing themselves and what they want out of life to make up for their perceived inadequacies. The

Allow people to be who they are instead of what you want them to be. Send healthy support messages like, "I'm here if you need me, but your choices—and the consequences—belong to you.

According to the highly emotional logic of BPD, if they do something terrible to you, and you accept it without complaining or becoming upset, that shows that you care about them. But if you respond in the way that most people would, by expressing your anger or displeasure, that means that you don't really have positive feelings for them.

This is why, no matter how many times you reassure them, they can't accept your reassurance. Meanwhile, the black hole inside them never gets filled.

detach with love Some family members practice detaching with love, a concept promoted by Al-Anon,

Friendship is also about liking a person for their failings, their weakness. It's also about mutual help, not about exploitation.

Travel works best when you're forced to come to terms with the place you're in.

34You shall treat the alien who resides with you no differently than the natives born among you; you shall love the alien as yourself; for you too were once aliens in the land of Egypt. I, the LORD, am your God.

Being religious means asking passionately the question of the meaning of our existence and being willing to receive answers, even if the answers hurt.

We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness is, the greater is our love.

Grace strikes us when we are in great pain and restlessness…. Sometimes at that moment a wave of light breaks into our darkness, and it is as though a voice were saying: "You are accepted."

I hope for the day when everyone can speak again of God without embarrassment.

No self-acceptance is possible if one is not accepted in a person-to-person relation.

the courage to accept oneself as accepted in spite of being unacceptable…. This is the genuine meaning of the Pauline-Lutheran doctrine of 'justification by faith

The faith which makes the courage of despair possible is the acceptance of the power of being, even in the grip of non-being. Even in the despair about meaning being affirms itself through us. The act of accepting meaninglessness is in itself a meaningful act. It is an act of faith.