Quotes About Acceptance

As long as I am not hurting anyone, I refuse to be shamed for normal emotional responses like anger, sadness, fear and depression. I especially refuse to attack myself for how hard it is to completely eliminate the self-hate habit.

For just as without night there is no day, without work there is no play, without hunger there is no satiation, without fear there is no courage, without tears there is no joy, and without anger, there is no real love. Most people, who choose or are coerced into only identifying with "positive" feelings, usually wind up in an emotionally lifeless middle ground – bland, deadened, and dissociated in an unemotional "no-man's-land.

I believe the quality of our emotional intelligence is reflected in the degree to which we accept all of our feelings without automatically dissociating from them or expressing them in a way that hurts ourselves or others.

Our only recourse then is to learn to love ourselves and our inner children when we are temporarily trapped in shame. Unresisting acceptance can gradually dissolve shame. We need to be as tender with ourselves as possible at such times.

strive to accept the existential fact that the human feeling nature is often contradictory and frequently vacillates between opposite polarities of feeling experiences.

Grieving expands Insight and Understanding

freeze response is triggered when a person, realizing resistance is futile, gives up, numbs out into dissociation and/ or collapses as if accepting the inevitability of being hurt.

We can learn to be emotional in benign ways. We can have our emotions without holding onto them. We can soften and relax into our feelings without exiling or enshrining them. We can let our feelings pass through us when they have fully served their function.

The only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid unavoidable pain.

Any attempt to dictate what thoughts, feelings, and sensations are proper or improper creates a breeding ground for guilt and shame.

When the moral judgment is removed, individuals are able to acknowledge and experience their authentic life energy freely.

Animals do not view freezing as a sign of inadequacy or weakness, nor should we.

The second noble truth states that we must discover why we are suffering. We must cultivate the courage to look deeply, with clarity and courage, into our own suffering. We often hold the tacit assumption that all of our suffering stems from events in the past. But, whatever the initial seed of trauma, the deeper truth is that our suffering is more closely a result of how we deal with the effect these past events have on us in the present.

The power of goodness—in this case, the organism's innate capacity to restore itself to health and balance—is encouraged by a bystander, an empathetic witness who helps to prevent trauma by embodying kindness and acceptance.

There is hope for all the colored people in this country while one white woman can love one colored man.

And so each man wants and works, almost automatically, for the approval of his people.

You're born cute. Babies are cute. Not hard to guess why – it's so everyone will forgive them for being such a pain. You grow a little older, and people say, what beautiful hair, or get a load of those baby blues,' or something nice that keeps you thinking you're still on the cuteness track. Then you hit twelve or thirteen and boom, they tell you everything needs fixing.

As Sheryl Shetsky says to other people who are fighting brain tumors, "Don't try to get back to who you were then. This is likely a new and improved you in many ways; moving on is the way to go.

Maybe the unvarnished meaning of growing up is the acceptance that living out our values, and also winning the approval of those who have power over us, is an unfulfillable longing.

We can create structures of belonging even if we are introverted

I came to Australia as a damaged grown up adult, and it took me years to heal, so my perspective of the national Australian pride is not full. It [assimilation] penetrates, it's accepted, it's tolerated, and I think the third generation it is absorbed. I don't know about the second generation, - Holocaust survivor, Kitia Altman

Very much. Very much a melting pot. You don't draw lines anymore. There's no such thing as 'bloody this' or 'bloody that'. There's no such thing anymore. We all Aussies. And the Aussies respect us as Aussies. I am accepted as an Australian and I feel like one too. - Ibolya Cabrero-Kovacs, Hungarian Freedom Fighter

I thought the best thing to do would be nothing, and in that way things couldn't get any worse.

she had insisted on keeping the doors and windows shut, as if a sealed chamber could prevent death from entering, or life from leaving her.