Quotes About Acceptance

Chester's death had almost killed him. All the grief over Alyssa that he'd suppressed in order to protect me tore out of him when the crippled old beast gave up.

Could there be whites who might not, after all, hate her on sight for the ungivable forgiveness they needed from her?

She might live with anything except being forgiven.

Life is something we need to stop correcting. My boy was a pocket universe I could never hope to fathom.

Someone who doesn't even know she's been invented, staying game in the face of the inescapable plot.

Beliefs should not be considered delusional if they are in keeping with societal norms.

He's reached the age when dead is the new normal.

Preventing and limiting violence means protecting children from brutalization in a country where physically punishing children continues to be acceptable behavior.

The human ego prefers anything, just about anything, to falling, or changing, or dying. The ego is that part of you that loves the status quo – even when it's not working. It attaches to past and present and fears the future.

When we fail we are merely joining the great parade of humanity that has walked ahead of us and will follow after us.

You cannot heal what you do not first acknowledge.

In the second half of life, we do not have strong and final opinions about everything, every event, or most people, as much as we allow things and people to delight us, sadden us, and truly influence us.

God does not love us if we change, God loves us so that we can change.

Your concern is not so much to have what you love anymore, but to love what you have—right now. This is a monumental change from the first half of life, so much so that it is almost the litmus test of whether you are in the second half of life at all.

The great and merciful surprise is that we come to God not by doing it right but by doing it wrong!

In terms of soul work, we dare not get rid of the pain before we have learned what it has to teach us.

There must be, and, if we are honest, there always will be at least one situation in our lives that we cannot fix, control, explain, change, or even understand. For Jesus and for his followers, the crucifixion became the dramatic symbol of that necessary and absurd stumbling stone.

In fact, I would say that the demand for the perfect is the greatest enemy of the good.

It is not that suffering or failure might happen, or that it will only happen to you if you are bad (which is what religious people often think), or that it will happen to the unfortunate, or to a few in other places, or that you can somehow by cleverness or righteousness avoid it. No, it will happen, and to you! Losing, failing, falling, sin, and the suffering that comes from those experiences—all of this is a necessary and even good part of the human journey.

Forgiveness is to let go of our hope for a different or better past.

If we know our original blessing, we can easily handle our original sin. If we rest in a previous dignity, we can bear insults effortlessly. If you really know your name is on some eternal list, you can let go of the irritations on the small lists of time. Ultimate security allows you to suffer small insecurity without tremendous effort. If you are tethered at some center point, it is amazing how far out you can fly and not get lost.

Jesus was trying to present value of a life of vulnerability in which one would have practical and needed experience of the same. It would be a life without baggage, so one would learn to accept others and their culture instead of always carrying along our own country's assumptions and calling them the Gospel.

We do not handle suffering. Suffering handles us.

Only when we rest in God can we find the safety, the spaciousness, and the scary freedom to be who we are, all that we are, more than we are, and less than we are.