Quotes About Self-discovery

I just would never go audition, and yet I was in very visible places where people would come looking for actors. I say I'm lazy, though I'm sure if I were in therapy for a lot of years, it would turn out to be a lot more than laziness. After awhile, it was, like, too embarrassing for me not to go on auditions. I had to be humiliated into it.

For me, a happy ending is not everything works out just right and there is a big bow, it's more coming to a place where a person has a clear vision of his or her own life in a way that enables them to kind of throw down their crutches and walk.

When you have things that are very important to you in life, when there are things you want to do and be - that takes work. It takes work to show up for your own story and show up for the dream and vision you have for yourself.

I wanted to be a cheerleader, like my sister was - all the most popular and beautiful girls are cheerleaders and I wanted that, and it demolished this vision of myself. That's when I found the piano, when music saved me; that's when I first attempted to write my own songs.

He'd given me permission to feel and also a reminder that, like so many people, I'd been mistaking feeling less for feeling better.

Once we know what we're feeling, we can make choices about where we want to go with them.

Às vezes, me pergunto: Quem sou eu para tomar decisões importantes na minha própria vida? Será que sou mesmo qualificada para isso? Todo mundo trava essa batalha interna em algum grau: Criança ou adulto? Segurança ou liberdade? Mas independentemente de onde as pessoas caiam nessa continuidade, toda decisão feita é baseada em duas coisas: medo e amor. A terapia luta para ensinar como diferenciar um do outro.

What was helpful in getting to where the person is today? What wasn't? What has she learned about herself—her strengths, her challenges, her internal scripts and narratives—and what coping strategies and healthier ways of being can she take with her when she leaves?

In this room, I'm going to see you, and you'll try to hide, but I'll still see you, and it's going to be okay when I do.

Instead, you release them in layers, moving closer and closer to the tender core: your sadness

The more you welcome your vulnerability," Wendell had said, "the less afraid you'll feel.

And so it begins, at last. Charlotte doesn't leave this time. Instead, she stays in therapy until she learns to drive her own car, navigating her way through the world more safely, looking both ways, making many wrong turns but finding her way back, always, to where she truly wants to go.

For many people, going into the depths of their thoughts and feelings is like going into a dark alley—they don't want to go there alone. People come to therapy to have somebody to go there with, and people watch John's show for a similar reason: it makes them feel less alone, allows them to see a version of themselves muddling through life

Feeling your sadness or anxiety can also give you essential information about yourself and your world.

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

But I assure him that he's not breaking down; he's breaking open.

doorknob disclosures.

But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself—to let go of the limiting stories you've told yourself about who you are so that you aren't trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you've been telling yourself about your life. But

When you stop tossing junk into the void—words, words, and more words—something important rises to the surface.

I've noticed that dreams can be a precursor to self-confession – a kind of pre-confession.

I once told Wendell that I'm a terrible decision maker, that often what I think I want doesn't turn out the way I'd imagined. But there were two notable exceptions, and both proved to be the best decisions of my life. In each case, I was nearly forty. One was my decision to have a baby. The other was my decision to become a therapist.

It's impossible to grow without first becoming vulnerable.

impossible to grow without first becoming vulnerable.

I wondered who would teach me, or if a boy could learn on his won, what it means to be a man.