Quotes About Self-discovery

You don't know how to be alone with yourself. And if you block out the world, there you'd be.

In the end, if we could ever really pursue the question 'why' to its true headwaters, we might find it is often no more than this: a beginning so trifling that it hardly bears notice. The flip of a switch. The flash of a neurotransmission. Maybe there was always something amiss, like a bulb planted and forgotten that blooms when the season is right. ...A thousand girls could have gotten through my seventh grade and breezed on with a laugh; I didn't.

Of course, the problem with self-transformation is that after a while, you don't know which version of yourself to believe in, which one is true.

What makes you feel empty and what makes you feel full? Who, or what, makes you feel connected or soothed or joyful? How much companionship do you need, and how much solitude? What feels right, what feels like enough? We all have to feel our way through those questions in life, and although she cannot provide the answers for me, I have the sense that Lucille is gently leading me toward them. I pick up that leash; I go forward.

Not long ago I heard a woman in her ninth month of sobriety say that before she quit drinking, she had only two emotions, anxiety and despair. "Now I have, like, too many to count," she said, "and some of them suck, but some of them are really, really good." Almost everyone in the room knew what she meant.

Feels right: music to my ears. My therapist has tried to steer me toward that feeling for eons: forget about what you think you're supposed to do, forget about what others expect you to do; what feels right, to you?

The real struggle is about you: you, a person who has to learn to live in the real world, to inhabit her own skin, to know her own heart, to stop waiting for life to begin.

It happened this way: I fell in love and then, because the love was ruining everything I cared about, I had to fall out.

The freedom to choose...means the freedom to make mistakes, to falter and fail, to come face-to-face with your own flaws and limitations and fears and secrets, to live with the terrible uncertainty that necessarily attends the construction of a self.

When your healthy self is strong enough to deal with all that comes your way in life, your eating disorder self will no longer be useful or necessary. You

In order to start our mythic journey to end our suffering, we need to enter into a real and dynamic dialogue with our hearts. Start by writing a letter to your heart, telling it all that's going on with you now and asking it for guidance.

As Jung emphasized: "Until you make the unconscious, conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it Fate.

But Jung also pointed out: "One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.

I'm Fred Mathews

It's like you wake up one morning, and decided that how you've been in the past doesn't have to define who you are in the future. Simple as that.

My own words continued to echo in my head: I shall never marry . I felt as though I had somehow crossed a vast ocean, never to return.

You can go a surprisingly long time without figuring out the kind of person you are and in what direction your life is taking you.

It has taken her twenty years to learn what she is made of. And that modesty has made her what she was always destined to become, the heroine of her own tale?the woman who will be at last, before it is too late, the great love of one man's life and the salvation of her own.

Everything grows rounder and wider and weirder, and I sit here in the middle of it all and wonder who in the world you will turn out to be.

I have a mess in my head sometimes, and there's something very satisfying about putting it into words. Certainly it's not something that you're in charge of, necessarily, but writing about it, putting it into your words, can be a very powerful experience.

I should let people I meet do the work of piecing me together until they can complete, or mostly complete, the puzzle. And when they're finished they can look at the picture that they've managed to piece together and decide whether they like it or not. On their own time. Let them discover you.

I highly recommend your doing: find an equivalent of killing a giant space slug in your head and celebrate that.

I am closer to who I want to be when I am alone lately. With people, I hear my voice and I just wonder who or what I'm doing all this for. Spreading myself out in front of people. Devaluing my ostensible worth by being so readily available to almost any random pedestrian who wanders into the crosswalk of my focus. If someone is within an earshot I shoot off at the mouth.

I was sitting by myself the other night doing the usual things one does when spending time alone with yourselves. You know, making mountains out of molehills, hiking up to the top of the mountains, having a Hostess Twinkie and then throwing myself off the mountain. Stuff like that.