Quotes About Relationships

Owe no one anything except to love one another;

Or they can be in negative sentiment override, so that even a relatively neutral thing that a partner says gets perceived as negative. In the negative sentiment override state, people draw lasting conclusions about each other. If their spouse does something positive, it's a selfish person doing a positive thing. It's really hard to change those states, and those states determine whether one party tries to repair things, the other party sees that as repair or hostile manipulation.

Gottman is far more selective. He has found that he can find out much of what he needs to know just by focusing on what he calls the Four Horsemen: defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt.

this is why Gottman has couples talk about something involving their marriage — like their pets — without being about their marriage. He looks closely at indirect measures of how the couple is doing: the telling traces of emotion that flit across one person's face; the hint of stress picked up in the sweat glands of the palm; a sudden surge in heart rate; a subtle tone that creeps into an exchange.

You know, in order to make somebody laugh, you have to be interesting, and in order to be interesting, you have to do things that are mean. Comedy comes out of anger, and interesting comes out of angry; otherwise there is no conflict. But he was able to be mean and you forgave him, and you have to be able to forgive somebody, because at the end of the day, you still have to be with him, even after he's dumped the girl or made some choices that you don't agree with.

La región ventromedial desempeña una función crucial en la toma de decisiones. Establece contingencias y relaciones, y organiza la montaña de información que recibimos del mundo exterior para priorizar y señalar las cosas que exigen atención inmediata. Quienes sufren alguna lesión en esta zona están plenamente capacitados para el pensamiento racional y pueden ser muy inteligentes y funcionales, pero carecen de capacidad de juicio.

Successful people don't do it alone.

Six degrees of separation doesn't mean that everyone is linked to everyone else in just six steps. It means that a very small number of people are linked to everyone else in a few steps, and the rest of us are linked to the world through those special few.

Connectors, people with a special gift for bringing the world together.

Psychiatrists talk about criminals as people with stunted psychological development, people who have had pathological relationships with their parents, who lack adequate role models.

Throughout the majority of human history, encounters—hostile or otherwise—were rarely between strangers.

to succeed in the world he could not be just a dog whisperer. He needed to be a people whisperer.

The Rosetons were healthy because of where they were from, because of the world they had created for themselves in their tiny little town in the hills…The values of the world we inhabit and the people we surround ourselves with has a profound effect on who we are.

Man evolved to feel strongly about few people, short distances, and relatively brief intervals of time; and these are still the dimensions of life that are important to him.

Don't get me wrong. I love my mother-in-law. It's her daughter I can't figure out.

Some of them may have children in nearby schools, and grocery stores where they shop, and friends they like to be close to, and parents they need to look in on—and as a result have all kinds of reasons not to move their business. Their job, at that moment, is sex work. But they are mothers and daughters and friends and citizens first. Coupling forces us to see the stranger in her full ambiguity and complexity.

We are nuanced and complex and enigmatic. But the stranger is easy. If I can convince you of one thing in this book, let it be this: Strangers are not easy.

having someone you love express contempt toward you is so stressful that it begins to affect the functioning of your immune system.

garment trade. Neighboring Bangor was largely Welsh and English, and the next town over was overwhelmingly German, which meant—given the fractious relationships between the English and Germans and

They had to look beyond the individual. They had to understand the culture he or she was a part of, and who their friends and families were, and what town their families came from. They had to appreciate the idea that the values of the world we inhabit and the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on who we are.

What we get in exchange for being vulnerable to an occasional lie is efficient communication and social coordination.

You can´t live without loving.

The more even sounds of the bus wove into Hugh's brain an idiotic syllogism: I am losing the Battle of the Ebro, I am also losing Yvonne, therefore Yvonne is...

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