Quotes About Relationships

Fail #2: Criticizing

When you use the Empathy Jolt, avoid the mistake of interjecting your own opinions during the process—even if they're positive ones ("I certainly agree about what you're saying about Simon's talents"). Your goal is to get two people to mirror each other, and they can't do that if you're standing between them. So facilitate, but don't butt in.

People who live with substance abusers know that refusing to cooperate with the addiction can trigger an explosive outburst or a childish accusation.

There's no such thing as a free lunch." Consciously or unconsciously, nearly everyone keeps score of favors and gestures, and everyone is sensitive to being shortchanged.

When you understand irrational people's M.O.s, it'll be easier for you to realize that their weeping, coldness, whining, withdrawal, or attack-dog behavior isn't really about you. Instead, it's about them and their need to feel in control.

First we are children to our parents, then parents to our children, then parents to our parents, then children to our children." —MILTON GREENBLATT, M.D.

you probably know a lot less than you think you do about the people you want to reach, whether they're new in your life or people you've known forever. That what you think you know may be very wrong. And that reaching these people doesn't just mean opening their minds to you. It also means rewiring yourself so you can see these people as they really are.

Self-involvement is usually at the root of self-defeating behavior in relationships.

You can't always change the people around you. But you can change the people you're around.

Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence." —GEORGE WASHINGTON

But other times, you'll discover that you're sticking with an irrational person simply because you don't want to feel like a bad person yourself.

An ounce of apology is worth a pound of resentment and a ton of "acting out by underperforming.

when it comes to finding out about new jobs - or, for that matter, new information, or new ideas - "weak ties" are always more important than strong ties.

I find people confusing.

What they failed to teach you at school was that the whole business of being human just got messier and more complicated as you got older. You could tell the truth, be polite, take everyone's feelings into consideration and still have to deal with other people's shit. At nine or ninety.

People need people and the happiest people are surrounded with friendly flesh. If you have ten kids they'll be so sweet -- ten really sweet kids! Have twelve! What if there were 48 pro baseball teams, you could see a damn lot more games! And in this fashion we get away from tragedy. Because tragedy comes when someone gets too special.

This is no accident. Satan's attack on marriages and the family is real and relentless. As someone has said, "When you get married, that's when the war begins.

Parents don't understand kids and kids don't understand parents. My parents were divorced when I was really young and I went to live with my dad.

Thank God I never got in a fight. All of the jock dudes hated me, but all of their girlfriends thought I was nice so they wouldn't touch me. It was infuriating to them.

We aren't disciples in midair without bodies, histories, personalities, relationships and much more. We begin to follow by responding to Jesus' invitation where we are.

Abu-Jamal, serving a life-sentence now in the Pennsylvania prison, after over 29 years on death row, observes this about prison time: "Once loving relationships wither into yesterday's dust. Relatives die, their loss mourned in silent loneliness. Times, temperaments, mores change, and the caged move to outdated rhythms.

In fact, within Python, instance and class objects are mostly just dictionaries with links between them.

Those who truly love us will never knowingly ask us to be other than we are

Motormouth: So this is love? Well, love is a gift and a lot of people forget that. So you two better brace yourselves for a whole lot of ugly coming your way on a never ending train of stupid. Penny: So you met my mom?