Quotes About Relationships

WHEN ASKING FOR HELP, APPEAL TO PEOPLE'S SELF-INTEREST, NEVER TO THEIR MERCY OR GRATITUDE

Lincoln replied, "do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?" KEYS TO POWER It is natural to want to employ your friends when you find yourself in times of need.

talking endlessly about [ourselves] is eminently anti-seductive, revealing not self-sufficiency but insecurity.

The more you are in contact with others, the more graceful and at ease you become. Isolation, on the other hand, engenders an awkwardness in your gestures, and leads to further isolation, as people start avoiding you.

Be convinced, that there are no persons so insignificant and inconsiderable, but may, some time or other, have it in their power to be of use to you; which they certainly will not, if you have once shown them contempt. Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it for ever. (Lord Chesterfield, 1694-1773)

Never discriminate as to whom you study and whom you trust. Never trust anyone completely and study everyone, including friends and loved ones.

Thus for my own part I have more than once been deceived by the person I loved most and of whose love, above everyone else's, I have been most confident. So that I believe that it may be right to love and serve one person above all others, according to merit and worth, but never to trust so much in this tempting trap of friendship as to have cause to repent of it later on. BALDASSARE CASTIGLIONE, 1478-1529

Never try to seduce someone who is of your own type. You will be like two puzzles missing the same parts.

The world is full of self-absorbed people. In their presence, we know that everything in our relationship with them is directed toward themselves—their insecurities, their neediness, their hunger for attention.

Daily Law: Think more like a writer in approaching the people you deal with, even the worst sorts.

Gardez-vous de vos amis : beaucoup vous trahiront par envie. D'autres se montreront gâtés, tyranniques. Un ancien ennemi que vous engagez sera plus loyal qu'un ami parce qu'il devra faire ses preuves. En fait, vous avez plus à craindre de vos amis que de vos ennemis. Si vous n'avez pas d'ennemis, trouvez le moyen de vous en faire.

friendship and love blind every man to their interests. Nobody believes a friend can betray.

la importancia de mantener las relaciones más estrechas posible con los clientes; la necesidad de conservar las ideas en el nivel más simple y realista posible; el valor de crear un producto superior y de ganar por habilidad, en oposición a hacer que todo apunte a ganar dinero.

Make people depend on you. More is to be gained from such dependence than courtesy. He who has slaked his thirst, immediately turns his back on the well, no longer needing it. When dependence disappears, so does civility and decency, and then respect.

You often do not know your friends as well as you imagine. Friends often agree on things in order to avoid an argument. They cover up their unpleasant qualities so as not offend each other. They laugh extra hard at each others jokes. Since honesty rarely strengthens friendship, you may never know how a friend truly feels. Friends will say they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste in clothes - maybe they mean, often they do not.

it is far easier to avoid creating envy in the first place than to get rid of it once it is there, ...

A través de una exposición continua a la gente y tratando de pensar dentro de ella podemos obtener una sensación creciente de su perspectiva, pero esto requiere un esfuerzo de nuestra parte.

Tan pronto como te sientes contra mí, has dejado de comprender mi posición, ¡y por tanto mis argumentos! Tienes que ser víctima de la misma pasión".

una vez que hayas elegido a la persona correcta, debes hacer que el objetivo venga a ti. Si en etapas iniciales logras hacerle creer que es él quien realiza el primer acercamiento, has ganado el juego.

Be wary of friends—they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical

Because we are not really relating to women and men as they are, but rather to our projections, we will eventually feel disappointed in them, as if they are to blame for not being what we had imagined. The relationship will often tend to fall apart from the misreading and miscommunications on both sides, and not aware of the source of this, we will go through precisely the same cycle with the next person.

Muchas suspiran por el placer que huye / y aborrecen al que se les brinda; / insta con menos fervor / y dejarás de parecerle inoportuno. / No siempre han de delatar tus agasajos la esperanza / del triunfo; en ocasiones conviene que el amor / se insinúe disfrazado con el nombre de amistad. / He visto más de una mujer intratable sucumbir / a esta prueba, y al que antes era / su amigo convertirse por fin en su amante.

We humans like to believe that we are consistent and mature, and that we have reasonable control over our lives. We make decisions based on rational considerations, on what will benefit us the most. We have free will. We know who we are, more or less. But in one particular aspect of life these self-opinions are all easily shattered - when we fall in love.

Envy occurs most commonly and painfully among friends. We assume that something in the course of the relationship caused the friend to turn against us. Sometimes all we experience is the betrayal, the sabotage, the ugly criticisms they throw at us, and we never understand the underlying envy that inspired these actions. What we need to grasp is something paradoxical: people who feel envy in the first place are often motivated to become our friends.