Quotes About Relationships

What you are not responsible for is your lover's emotions. You can choose to be supportive—we're great believers in the healing power of listening—but it is not your job to fix anything.

A ring around the finger does not cause a nerve block to the genitals.

It seems to me that faithfulness has very little to do with who you have sex with." Faithfulness is about honoring your commitments and respecting your friends and lovers, about caring for their well-being as well as your own. If

We know from extensive experience that appearance and wealth are not predictors of good loving. We try to avoid ranking people as better or worse than each other and are unhappy with those who want to relate to our rank more than our selves. Hierarchies produce victims on the top as well as the bottom, because it is almost as alienating to be approached by too many people for the wrong reasons as it is to be approached by nobody at all.

Once you've gotten comfortable with "no," "yes" is usually easier. Try it, in all its variations: "Yes, please." "Yes, when?" "Yes, but I have some limits I want to tell you about first." "Yes, but I need you to talk to my partner first." "Yes, but not tonight; how does next Tuesday look for you?" "Hell, yes!

Only when we're all willing to own our emotions, and let our lovers and friends own theirs, does anyone have the power to change and grow.

When you are single, you have unique opportunities to deepen that relationship with yourself, to find out who you are, and to celebrate your journey in whatever relationships you may move through as you travel through your life.

Be nice to your body and then go find somebody else's body to be nice to, and somebody will be nice to your body, too. Someone who has happily given themselves as many orgasms as they want is unlikely to approach their other relationships in a state of sexual desperation. Sexual self-sufficiency is an important slut skill that makes us far less likely to play with the wrong person just because we're so horny. Be your own best lover.

You might also want to do some thinking about how much time you need to get your needs met: do you really have to stay over and have breakfast together the next day, or would an hour or two of cuddling and talk be just as nice?

We believe that the fundamental sexual unit is one person; adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun, and companionable but does not complete anybody.

Cuando has construido una relación satisfactoria contigo mismo, entonces tienes algo de gran valor para compartir con los demás.

When we see someone who intrigues us, we like to feel free to respond, and, as we explore our response, to discover whatever is special about this new, fascinating person. We like relating to different kinds of people and reveling in how our differences expand our horizons and offer us new ways to be ourselves.

If you have a lover and a best friend who are not the same person, you're already practicing many of the skills of sluthood as you manage each of their needs for intimacy, time, and affection.

Con la práctica, podemos desarrollar una intimidad basada en la cordialidad y respeto mutuo mucho más libre que la desesperación, necesidad o la locura ciega de enamorarse

The real test of love is when someone sees our weaknesses, our stupidities, and our smallnesses, and still loves us.

We dream of a time and a place where we will all be free to publicly declare our love, for whomever we love, however we love them.

We would propose that we do love our friends, whether or not we have sex with them: these individuals are our family, often more permanent in our lives than marriages.

There is no reason why any relationship in our lives can't be blessed with intimacy.

We each have the responsibility of living our own lives, determining our individual needs, and arranging to get those needs met. We cannot live through a partner, nor can we assume that just because we have a lover, all our needs should automatically be satisfied.

More pragmatically, we have had long, intense intimate conversations that felt deeply sexual to us. And we have had intercourse that didn't feel terribly sexual.

Once you have a handle on loving yourself, you can practice sharing that love with others.

Let jealousy be your teacher. Jealousy can lead you to the very places where you most need healing.

Be good to yourself and remember that the most important part of love is not loving someone's beauty and strength and virtue. The real test of love is when someone sees our weaknesses, our stupidities, and our smallnesses, and still loves us. This unconditional love is what we want from our lovers, and we should expect no less from ourselves

Make it a point to let everyone you love know it.