Quotes About Self-awareness

I don't consider myself to be a major talent, so the only solace I can take is to hope I'm growing.

Trying to show people how talented and bright you are is the best way to make an idiot of yourself, and we ended up doing that with flying colors.

What you feel is what you feel – that's what we woodtrolls say.' She patted Maris on the shoulder. 'And knowing how you feel is the first step to changing how you feel,' she said. 'If you really want to.' Maris

conscientia,

Imagine feeling empty, virtually without a self. Now think about admitting that what little self you can recognize has something wrong with it. To many people with BPD, this is like ceasing to exist—a terrifying feeling for anyone.

Be a mirror, not a sponge.

If she's not held accountable for what she does, she won't have to look at how her behavior affects herself and those around her. And until she is held accountable by others and by herself and decides to change, she won't get better. In fact, she could get worse.

Memorize the three Cs and the three Gs: I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it. get off their back. get out of the way. get on with your own life.

folks with NPD have shallow emotional lives because so much must remain hidden, both from themselves and from others. This shallowness makes them hard to get to know, because there doesn't seem to be much of a real person beneath the façade. This is the opposite of most people with BPD, who feel and express a very wide range of emotions.

When a person projects, they cannot accept a quality that exists in themselves. Instead, they see it in—and project it upon—another person. Essentially, they blame someone else for having the same faults they refuse to see in themselves. HCPs project their own perceived badness and unworthiness onto others. This projection is a defense mechanism that allows them to feel better about themselves, in a manner similar to rationalization and denial. All-or-Nothing

Separate your feelings from those of the person with BPD. Earlier in this book, we explained that people with BPD often use projection to try to get others to feel their feelings for them. You may need to keep checking yourself to determine whose feelings are whose. If you start to feel helpless or angry, is it because the other person is projecting his or her own helplessness or anger onto you?

But who are you? As the child of a parent with BPD and/or other emotional and cognitive difficulties, it may be surprisingly difficult to answer this question. You likely didn't have much mirroring, or validation, when you were young, which babies need in order to know where they stand in the world, that their feelings and observations and perceptions are healthy and normal. Without that early mirroring, it was difficult to see yourself, to know yourself…

To get unstuck, you must take a different approach. Stop focusing so much on your family member and take a close look at yourself. Work on becoming more of your own person.

Borderlines with abusive backgrounds may be replaying scripts from the past.

Being human means asking the questions of one's own being and living under the impact of the answers given to this question. And, conversely, being human means receiving answers to the questions of one's own being and asking questions under the impact of the answers.

Devido ao fato de o pecado cegar, Deus estabeleceu o corpo de Cristo para atuar como um instrumento de visão em nossa vida, de tal maneira que podemos nos conhecer com uma profundidade e exatidão que seriam impossíveis se fôssemos deixados à nossa própria sorte.

Our judgments judge us, and nothing reveals us, exposes our weaknesses, more ingeniously than the attitude of pronouncing upon our fellows.

Our judgements judge us; and nothing reveals us [or] exposes our weaknesses more ingeniously than the attitude of pronouncing upon our fellows.

But Socrates cannot but have been meditating upon something?... Can he ever remain solitary with himself -- and silent to his very soul!

There are pigeonholes in the brain with labels on them such as: To be looked into when I feel like it; Never to be thought of; Useless to follow up; Contents as yet unexamined; A blind alley; A rich vein, but exploitable only in another existence; Urgent; Dangerous; A hard nut to crack; Impossible; Discarded; Put in storage; None of my business; In my line; A teaser…and so forth.

J'ai toujours fait mes vers en m'observant les faire.

Consciousness reigns but doesn't govern.

Il faut donc que notre esprit s'excite soi-même à se défaire de sa stupeur et à se reprendre de cette solennelle et immobile surprise qui lui causent le sentiment d'être tout, et l'évidence de n'être rien.

A man who is 'of sound mind' is one who keeps the inner madman under lock and key.