Quotes About Vulnerability

Sick with the impossibility of it all, with the reality of how small a person is. How at any second you can get struck down by a bullet or a tree; how a person can look so very tiny against the world, how each of us is nothing more than a speck

For the vulnerability pattern, that philosophy offers a corrective for the distorted perception of the schema lens, which panics about everything, including what cannot be changed.

Of course I'm anxious now—my schema fears are making me assume I'm going to be abandoned or left out.

Loss of control lies at the core of the vulnerability pattern. The distinctive emotional signature of vulnerability is an exaggerated fear that some catastrophe is about to strike.

Schema therapy gives us a clear map of destructive habits. It details the emotional contours of, say, the fear of abandonment, with its constant apprehension that a partner will leave us; or of feelings of vulnerability, such as the irrational fear that a minor setback at work means you will end up jobless and homeless.

Clearly recognizing what is happening inside us, and regarding what we see with an open, kind and loving heart, is what I call Radical Acceptance. If we are holding back from any part of our experience, if our heart shuts out any part of who we are and what we feel, we are fueling the fears and feelings of separation that sustain the trance of unworthiness. Radical Acceptance directly dismantles the very foundations of this trance.

There is something wonderfully bold and liberating about saying yes to our entire imperfect and messy life.

The intimacy that arises in listening and speaking truth is only possible if we can open to the vulnerability of our own hearts. Breathing in, contacting the life that is right here, is our first step. Once we have held ourselves with kindness, we can touch others in a vital and healing way.

Perfection is not a prerequisite for anything but pain.

Don't turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That's where the light enters you.

There's a mystic who says there's only one really good question, which is, 'What am I unwilling to feel?

The instant we agree to feel fear or vulnerability, greed or agitation, we are holding our life with an unconditionally friendly heart.

This is the suffering of fear. Fear is part of being alive. Other people experience this too . . . I am not alone. May I be kind to myself . . . may I give myself the compassion I need.

the 'secret' of a spiritual life is the capacity to '...return to that which we have spent a lifetime hiding from, to rest in the bodily experience of the present moment -- if even it is a feeling of being humilated, of failing, of abandonment, of unfairness.' Through the sacred art of pausing, we develop the capacity to stop hiding, to stop running away from our experience.

We have to face the pain we have been running from. In fact, we need to learn to rest in it and let its searing power transform us. Charlotte Joko Beck

in exposing vulnerability we are always taking a chance and sometimes might get hurt ... the greater hurt, the real suffering, is in staying armored and isolated.

I'm too intense. I feel too much. And when I experience certain sensations, I act. Even if the situation is one I should probably walk away from. But you know what?" She was feeling a little better. "I'm never going to walk away, not from any of it. I can't. I am what I am. I'm intense, just as my fiance said. I feel everything around me, and I'm glad about that. I can't imagine life without the depth, without the magic that accompanies the pain.

There are no such enemies So dire as good people, They will rob you, mournfully, And condemn you, weeping, They'll invite you to their home, Welcome you profusely, Ask you all about yourself, To mock and abuse you, Later, mock at you and jeer, To grab you for sure... Without enemies on earth Somehow one can endure. But those good people yet will Everywhere beset you, Even in the other world They will not forget you.

que rien n'est jamais acquis et que nos fragilités restent, malgré les masques de la force. La force, finalement, c'est d'assumer ses fragilités et non se persuader qu'on les a dépassées, à moins que le fait de les dépasser consiste simplement à les assumer...

Sudhamoy consoled himself with the thought that it was not about Hindus and Muslims but about the strong torturing the weak whenever possible. Women are weak and so strong men torment them.

I felt so inadequate as Haroon fell over me, hungry as a tiger mauling a doe, delving deep into my body.

Never cry in front of these men. Never cry. Ever. It's only hair. Hair will grow back.

No human beings, regardless of who they might be, want to look directly at their own shortcomings.

Don't you understand? Listen carefully to what I'm saying. If you do, you'll get it. you can grasp this easily. In short...in short, I shut myself in because I'm lonely. Because I don't want to face any more loneliness, I shut myself away.