Quotes About Vulnerability

True men cry not through their tears but their words.

Mere humans who root through their refrigerators at three o'clock in the morning can only produce writing that matches what they do. And that includes me.

What happens when people open their hearts?" "They get better.

Despite your best efforts, people are going to be hurt when it's time for them to be hurt.

A leader has to have the emotional capacity to tolerate uncertainty, frustration, and pain. He has to be able to raise tough questions without getting too anxious himself.

Please, people, do not fuck with depression. It's merciless. All it wants is to get you in a room alone and kill you. Take care of yourself.

Because you were willing to risk a creative response to anger, you have suddenly become a trusted confidant, not a sparring partner. Once you become skilled in this non-defensive approach to criticism, you will make an important discovery: in most interactions with your spouse, you are actually safer when you lower your defenses than when you keep them engaged, because your partner becomes and ally, not an enemy.

The fact of the matter is that both individuals (fusers and isolators) have the identical need to be loved and cared for. It's just that one of them happens to be more in touch with those feelings than the other.

is easier to go without love than to accept a form of love that reawakens our fears of loss. In fact, to receive love feels far more dangerous than to be without it.

Whenever their partner's behavior looks or sounds like the real threats they've experienced in the past, they activate the defenses they used back then. Their defensive arsenal is ready to be deployed at the slightest provocation. An unsuspecting or well-intentioned partner can stumble over a tripwire and never know what they did to set off the attack.

A man who attended a recent workshop said that "falling in love with my wife made me feel loved and accepted for who I was for the very first time. It was intoxicating.

From our view, these scars are very active in adult intimate relationships and show up constantly when a partner turns away or shows a still face when the other is trying to engage.

Lies are usually caused by undue fear of men.

The sun, the moon and the stars would have disappeared long ago had they happened to be within the reach of predatory human hands.

Mother always said she was a size 7 woman she kept wrapped in fat to prevent bruising.

I once heard her tell a friend that she was, in fact, a 120-pound woman, but she kept herself wrapped in fat in order to prevent bruising.

Let's get naked and while we're at it work our damnedest.

When you understand who God is, you can see beyond a shadow of a doubt why your weakness is nothing to be feared, because it just leaves more room for him and his strength.

Your heart is not living until it has experienced pain... The pain of love breaks open the heart, even if it is as hard as a rock.

Night hid the ugly of the world. And sometimes, when I was feeling ugly, I was grateful that it would hide me, too.

I need so to love a person-be it girl or boy, friend or enemy. And without being able to, I sort of dry up.

to an outsider, it might look like a harsh thing, like inaction of the worst sort or a purposeful forgetting, but when you're the one choosing to look away, you know it's because your heart is simply trying to make it to tomorrow. your heart is scared to death, and it would rather not know than take a chance on being destroyed by the whole truth.

after a kiss you can find yourself in that deserted place where even if it's not leading to anything, you and the other person have both admitted some thing that tugs at the friendship, pulling it out of shape.

Don't be sorry. You could hurt me a thousand different ways and I'd love it every time.