Quotes About Vulnerability

That would be my theme, I thought: once I came out, the world was all windows.

The better you get at being just a shoulder, the more unsexed you become.

I forget that my greatest defense lies in my defenselessness. Being basically powerless, I have no defense. Having no defense, I choose to rise above the immediate situation rather than lower myself to that person's standard of behavior.

our best defense (as stated earlier) is often our defenselessness. In Al-Anon we hear, "Don't complain and don't explain.

I find myself writing this manuscript and talking to others about controlling feelings when I'm not always able to control my own. At times, not only can I not control my feelings, I can't control my thinking or my actions.

That's what sex is: inserting your heart into someone else's heart.

Despite his care, Reid was still playing with fire, the kind that could without warning sheathe one's whole life in irreversible conflagration.

Sometimes what you depend on is other people being even more wacked than you are.

Absolutely, love matters," she reiterated. "We forget that at our own risk.

That's the way Chris lives, warning everyone who gets close of the lightning that may strike. Never touch anything, never make a mark. But Anatole can't live that way. The world's too lonely a place: he has to touch things, he has to put his arms around them.

What bound people together was so fragile.

Shirtless, they'd stretch out in the long grass and take the healing brunt of a noontime sun that gave no clue of the thunderheads it already, in secret, had begun to breed.

I think good conversation is really the best form of sex.

A woman's thoughts are always weapons. And all men are monsters in their hearts.

The weak are found out and killed by the strong.

For men to love each other truly, they must have shed tears together.

The secret of the creative life is to feel at ease with your own embarrassment.

And I'm afraid that I'll be taken, abandoned, forsaken In her cold coffee eyes

I started to built a wall around myself. My way of dealing with other kids became to preemptively push them away. I started to act like a smart-ass or a clown, putting myself in a position where nobody wanted to be around me. I wished I weren't alone all the time, but at the same time, I did things to keep people away from me. The conflict inside could be excruciating. I was helpless.

The techniques of brainwashing are simple: isolate the victim, expose them to consistent messages, mix with sleep deprivation, add some form of abuse, get the person to doubt what they know and feel, keep them on their toes, wear them down, and stir well.

targets of emotional blackmail may become guarded about certain subjects and stop sharing major parts of their lives,

This lack of empathy also means that someone with NPD has no capacity for intimacy. This is a hard message to take in, we know. But we encourage you to become honest about what's not beneath your loved one's veneer of superiority.

Children are especially vulnerable to projective identification because they're still forming their own identities. In fact, on a subconscious level they may feel that they may lose their parent's love if they don't do whatever mom or dad seemingly expects of them—including act badly.

People with BPD often need to feel in control of other people, because they feel so out of control with themselves. In addition, because they feel vulnerable and afraid, they try to make their world more predictable and manageable by controlling it as much as possible.