Quotes About Vulnerability

In the Holy Relationship, it's understood that we all have unhealed places, and that healing is the purpose of our being with another person. We don't hide our weaknesses, but rather we understand that the relationship is a context for healing through mutual forgiveness.

When infants aren't held, they can become sick, even die. It's universally accepted that children need love, but at what age are people supposed to stop needing it? We never do. We need love in order to live happily, as much as we need oxygen in order to live at all.

A spiritual relationship is not necessarily one in which two people are smiling all the time.  Spiritual means to be above all else, authentic.  Real work can only occur in the presence of rigorous honesty  We all long for that, but we're afraid of communicating honestly with another person because we think they'll leave us if they see who we really are.

Grandiosity is always a cover for despair.

The heart's transformation is not attained through the mind—it's attained through surrender, authenticity, forgiveness, faith, honesty, acceptance, vulnerability, humility, willingness, nonjudgment, and other characterological values that have to be learned and relearned continuously.

Withholding love is a form of self-sabotage, as what we withhold from others, we are withholding from ourselves.

Where you hadn't yet dealt with your shadows, you manifested shadowy situations. Broken parts of you encountered broken parts of others.

Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists.

We're affected by other peoples' lovelessness only to the extent to which we judge them for it. Otherwise we are invulnerable to the ego, as the Son of God is meant to be.

Sometimes it takes the knife that emotionally pierces our heart, to pierce the walls that lie in front of it.

That every tear she felt like crying was a tear she had to cry, and she would know when she had cried enough when she didn't have any more tears left.

special relationship is a relationship based on fear.

Nadie llega a una relación ya sanado, ya perfecto. En una relación sagrada, se entiende que todos estamos heridos pero que todos estamos allí para sanar juntos.*

The world softens when we soften

The mother of any species is loving and tender toward her young but fiercely protective whenever they are threatened. What has happened to the female of our species?

Until your knees finally hit the floor, you're just playing at life, and on some level you're scared because you know you're just playing. The moment of surrender is not when life is over. It's when it begins.

Siempre que se considere que la fuerza bruta es el mayor poder y el amor se interprete esencialmente como debilidad, nos estaremos burlando de Dios y estaremos poniendo en riesgo nuestro futuro.

Deep down, the woman inside us is different from the one we show in the light of day. She is more authentically sexual, more glamorous, more glowing, and she knows more...She is afraid of being laughed at except when she is clearly desired. The whole world desires her actually, but doesn't usually let her know.

Some 120,000 girls were shipped into Minneapolis for last year's Super Bowl, making it arguably the largest sex-trafficking event in the world.

Thought I appear unaware of my surroundings, I hear her words. They're cruel and hurt me deeply...I know the state I'm in, but I also know that I didn't bring it on myself and I can't get out of it. (103)

Par exemple, tu vois, là, tu crois que tu es en train de me parler, mais peut-être pas. Peut-être que tu imagines que tu me parles, et moi en vrai je ne t'écoute pas. Alors qu'on pourrait se parler directement de soi à soi. Tu vois, il vaut mieux rencontrer l'altérité, quitte à être malheureux, que rester dans sa petite sûreté personnelle. L'essentiel c'est d'avoir des failles. Pas sa petite conscience tranquille. (p154)

even if I could go back in time to her as me, the age I am now she would never come into my arms without believing that I wanted something.

George] Steiner makes two other points worth mentioning about the consequences of language abuse: as usable words are lost, experience becomes cruder and less communicable. And with the loss of the subtlety, clarity, and reliability of language, we become more vulnerable to crude exercises of power.

I'm a confession that is waiting to be heard