Quotes About Vulnerability

The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage had a very different definition than it does today. Courage originally meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart.

A jornada da vulnerabilidade não foi feita para se percorrer sozinho. Nós precisamos de apoio. Precisamos de pessoas que nos ajudem na tentativa de trilhar novas maneiras de ser e não nos julguem. Precisamos de uma mão para nos levantar quando cairmos (e se você se entregar a uma vida corajosa, levará alguns tombos).

Tienes que ser valiente en tu vida para que otros puedan ser valientes en la suya»

The special courage it takes to experience true belonging is not just about braving the wilderness, it's about becoming the wilderness. It's about breaking down the walls, abandoning our ideological bunkers, and living from our wild heart rather than our weary hurt.

Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.

strong back, soft front, wild heart.

perfectionism is more about perception—we want to be perceived as perfect. Again, this is unattainable—there is no way to control perception,

Vsi ob?utimo sramoto. Vsi imamo v seni dobro in slabo plat, teko in svetlobo. A ?e se ne soo?imo z ob?utkom sramu, s tem, kar nas teži, za?nemo verjeti, da je nekaj narobe z nami - da smo slabi, nepopolni, ne dovolj dobri - in kar je še huje, ravnati za?nemo v skladu s temi prepri?anji. ?e želimo živeti z vsem stcem in biti povezani, moramo biti ranljivi. Da bi bili ranljivi, pa moramo postati sramoodbojni.

The secret killer of innovation is shame.

Self-kindness: Being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.

Perfectionism is addictive because when we invariably do experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe it's because we weren't perfect enough.

Da, težko je govoriti o ob?utku sramu. Vendar pogovor o njem ji niti približno tako nevaren kot to, kar istvarjamo s tišino! Vsi poznamo ob?utek sramu. Vse nas je strah govoriti o njem. In manj ko govorimo o njem, bolj ga ob?utimo.

For example, I didn't set out to study shame; I wanted to understand connection and empathy. But if you don't understand how shame can unravel connection in a split second, you don't really get connection. I didn't set out to study vulnerability; it just happens to be the big barrier to almost everything we want from our lives, especially courage. As Marcus Aurelius taught us, "What stands in the way becomes the way.

They were with me in the arena, fighting for me and with me.

What we know matters, but who we are matters more. Being rather than knowing requires showing up and letting ourselves be seen. It requires us to dare greatly, to be vulnerable. The first step of that journey is understanding where we are, what we're up against, and where we need to go.

The barriers and obstacles to daring leadership are real and sometimes fierce. But what I've learned from both the research and my own life is that as long as we name them, stay curious, and keep showing up, they don't have the power to stop us from being brave.

Common humanity recognizes that suffering and feelings of personal inadequacy are part of the shared human experience

Feeling shamed, judged, and blamed (and the fear of these feelings) are realities of the human experience. Perfectionism actually increases the odds that we'll experience these painful emotions and often leads to self-blame: It's my fault.

I define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

When we become more loving and compassionate with ourselves and we begin to practice shame resilience, we can embrace our imperfections. It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts: courage, compassion, and connection.

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect,

it gives us the power of understanding and meaning.

in order to deal with shame, some of us move away by withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping secrets. Some of us move toward by seeking to appease and please. And some of us move against by trying to gain power over others, by being aggressive, and by using shame to fight shame

To be on my list, you have to be what I call a "stretch-mark friend"—our connection has been stretched and pulled so much that it's become part of who we are, a second skin, and there are a few scars to prove it. We're totally uncool with each other.