Quotes About Pain

In that direction only pain lies.

There is cruelty in the world, Eliza, you can see that, can't you? It surrounds us. It breathes on us. We spend our life trying to escape it.

I hope he didn't suffer too much." "He did," she said. "But he was very stoical about it. It's those of us who are left behind who'll have to suffer now.

It's not easy losing someone," she said. "It never goes away, does it?" "The Phantom Pain, they call it," I said. "Like amputees get when they can still feel their missing limbs.

A line came into my mind, something that Hannah Arendt had once said about the poet Auden: that life had manifested the heart's invisible furies on his face. He looked a hundred years old. He looked like a man who had died several months earlier. He looked like a soul in pure torment.

Não torne as coisas piores, pensando que dói mais do que você realmente está sentindo.

You can hurt me if you like, I whispered, closing my eyes, thinking that he might slap me hard, drive his fist into my stomach, break my nose. Why would you want that? he asked, his tone betraying an innocence that believed his beauty. So I'll know that I'm alive.

The shared secret and the shared denial are the most horrible aspects of incest.

I see affect or feeling as the primary innate biological motivating mechanism, more urgent than drive deprivation and pleasure and more urgent than physical pain. He goes on to say that without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.

Jung said it well: "All our neuroses are substitutes for legitimate suffering.

Where are you, Adam? According to the book of Genesis, Adam went into hiding after the fall. By trying to be more than human, Adam felt less than human. Before the fall, Adam was not ashamed; after the fall he was. Toxic shame is true agony. It is a pain felt from the inside, in the core of our being. It is excruciatingly painful.

What is important to note is that we can't know what we don't know. Denial, idealization, repression and dissociation are unconscious survival mechanisms. Because they are unconscious, we lose touch with the shame, hurt and pain they cover up. We cannot heal what we cannot feel. So without recovery, our toxic shame gets carried for generations.

Until this original pain is embraced and worked through, the person cannot recover from the effects of the violation. Without doing their original pain grieving, they cannot find and reclaim their wonder child.

The spiritual wound can be healed. But it must be done by grieving, and that is painful.

When the fear, hurt and loneliness of the shame in a dysfunctional family reaches high levels of intensity, one person, often the most sensitive, becomes the family Scapegoat. The function of this role is to lessen the pain all the members are in.

To be committed to life as growth and overcoming is to be willing to accept suffering and risk pain.

The fact is, we really never went through the pain. We developed a fantasy bond and used our primary ego defenses to avoid the anger, hurt and pain of our abandonment. Then we avoided our avoidance with our rigid roles and characterological defenses. We missed expressing the feelings at the crucial time.

Whenever a shame-based person feels his real feelings, he feels ashamed. So, to avoid that pain he numbs out.

The French novelist Léon Bloy once said, "There are places in the heart that do not yet exist; pain must be in order for them to be.

But it is forever! Oh, this cutting EVER! What a soul-

Most people want to avoid pain, and discipline is often painful. But we need to recognize that there are really two kinds of pain when it comes to our daily conduct. There's the pain of self-discipline and the pain of regret. Most people avoid the pain of self-discipline because it's the easy thing to do. What they may not realize is that the pain of self-discipline is momentary but the pay-off is long lasting.

Those things that hurt, instruct." —Benjamin Franklin

Pain has a funny way of focusing the mind. Only what hurts matters.

Grief was for the others; sorrow and pain were for the others; some terrible mistake had been made.